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Originally posted by Akragon
I have a message for a lot of the guys on ATS writing about "relationships"
Oh... but its not from me...
I will now turn over the keyboard to the girlfriend....
After reading over some of the threads about relationships and dating, specifically posted from obviously jaded males, it was slightly offensive. Not because I am a female and there seemed to be a lot of female bashing, but because of the complete lack of common sense when it comes to the dating world from these female bashers.
As far as I can see the reason you are single is not because women are "crazy", its because you whine and complain more than us females do! No woman wants to be with someone who sounds like another woman, if that were the case they would be dating WOMEN, not you! Women want a man, we have enough girlfriends. We dont need our boyfriends and husbands to need more "emotional support" than we do. Not at all saying that the "emotional support" is not given when its appropriate, however we dont want to listen to you complain about problems that really do not have signifigance. It's as bad as when females fish for compliments, but complaining about how you don't have a girlfriend absolutely falls under this catergory!
Also stop with the low self esteem attitudes, in all reality it makes us pity you, not want to rip your clothes off. If you have that much to complain about yourself what makes you think thats going to help our case in any way? Confidence is sexy, doesnt matter what you look like. Your pity party is a complete turn off and only makes us see all of your "faults" that you believe you have. How about focusing on the good things?
You guys aren't single because you can't find a girlfriend. I don't believe that for a second. You guys are single because you're whiney and complain and have low self esteem and from what i've read are clearly going for the wrong kind of girls. I'm not trying to say that all girls are wonderful and would never be mean because I know girls can be terrible, in a destroy your whole life kind of way. Just keep in mind that people in general will treat you how you allow them to.
You want a girlfriend? Get some confidence! Don't have any? Then that is your problem and not the fault of the female population! You guys using us is just an excuse for you to be lazy and have something else to complain about. Once again a total turn off. If you're not happy then it's your job to fix it, not ours to coddle your ego. When we do its just a band aid solution because it really doesn't fix a thing. You still have no confidence. I would much rather be with someone who is far too cocky than someone whos ego I have to stroke every night to feel like they are happy.
The saying "nice guys finish last" must have been thought up by one of you lazy no self esteem mommas boys. It's an absolute disgrace to guys in general because nice guys don't always finish last but the guys that put zero effort into a real relationship as well as themselves. I've known plenty of very nice sweet guys that have women in their lives and are very happy. It's the nice guys that are happy with themselves that will always come out on top. It's also these nice guys that are happy with themselves that find women with the same mind set. As a guy would you really want to be with someone with so much to complain about or someone who is happy and fun?
Bottom line, you're single because you allow yourselves to be. You love the negativity and you love the complaining and probably all of the sympathy and whatever else comes along with your pity party. If youre not happy with yourself, no girl would want to be happy with you.
Its very simple. Fix your own issues, become happy non lazy people, stop making excuses for yourselves and see what happens.
edit on 26-11-2012 by Akragon because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Xcellante
reply to post by DeadSnow
I usually just ignore them. I mean if a woman is gonna take the time to point out "minor" defects in yourself then it is customary and polite to do the same to them!
Thats what I did anyway. A majority of women are witches anyway so it is a case of trial and error. I went through plenty before I eventually found my little darlin'. All the rest where either too self-absorbed with themselves or wanted to model myself to match their idea of a perfect man or a long lost love. I just kicked them to the kerb as soon as "You know I love you... But..." line came up.
There is no woman on earth who has the capability of changing me.
Originally posted by DeadSnow
reply to post by Akragon
This ain't from me dude.. *dives for cover* ...
Lol I expected worse...
I've also noticed women tend to go out of their ways (Some!! not all, in fact most :up to please us (In all the wrong ways), a couple of months down you start realizing everything is changing..their sense of fashion, the type of music they listen to, the movies they watch, the people they hang with.
Originally posted by LadySinclair
What the @#@! does this have to do with ATS? Please stop irritating real Alpha females and take your rant to a suburbanite girl magazine please. Stick to the real issues for the site.