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BTW, not sure how old you are but around mid to late 20s you'll get hit up by a lot of ex-girlfriends who are getting marriage/baby fever.
I don't know how to describe the women who have devastated me over the past decade.... Sadistic, reptilian brained, PTSD ongoing, bipolar, manic, neurotic, retarded, psychotic, self destructive? You name it and I've endured it at some point this past decade.
Originally posted by JibbyJedi
I have been mentally & emotionally bruised, beaten, knifed, gutted, burned, & scarred by women who want to break a man down, just because they can. They aren't satisfied until they drink the tears of sweet sorrow for nourishment or at the very minimum, break the guy down to a Parkinson's nerve rattling. They FEED off of the negative energy they instigate and stimulate. What the Hell is that all about?
My advice is be up front and honest, even to the point of bluntness with the women in your life.
You'd be surprised how fast they back down when you stand your ground.
It does not work like it does on paper. The more blunt I get, the more it's warped and twisted, then thrown back at me like I was the aggressor.
I'm also the one with the closed legs in the relationship because I cannot and will not be aroused by dramatics and negativity. I can't fist fight and make love in the same day to the same person, it's retardedly dysfunctional, but many of my exes seem to prefer it that way.
Tell me your secret because nothing works for me... and yes, in a way i do allow it. I allow it because I care about them, I see their potential, and I believe in them that they can overcome this mental infection of insecurity, unworthiness, lying, deceit, distrust, and hormonal imbalances.
She has threatened me with moving out for years, almost weekly. Whenever she got pissed about anything I heard, "I can't do this anymore, I'm leaving!" Then the next day it was a different story.
I finally said, "OK leave then, I'm not stopping you." That turned into, in her head and future memories..."Leave, I hate you, get out!" So when she tells her friends and family what I said, that's how it comes out, and I'm the a-hole somehow.
This time I stuck to my guns.
No more back & forth, up & down, push & pull on my emotions. Now she's making me pack her things while she's at her mother's.
The kids' stuff is all here, their schooling is going to be all screwed up changing schools mid year, and no one walks away from this feeling any kind of stability in their lives, especially the kids.