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Originally posted by feelingconnected
I realize this can be a touchy or highly personal subject matter. And I'm not sure I've put this in the right forum. I feel like having a rant, but no not this thread.. If anyone is willing or interested in answering a few questions on this topic, Id love to hear from you.
OK, so where to start, well what I'm wanting to ask is -During your alcoholism be it current or past, did you or do you know you had/have a problem with drinking? I'm really interested in this question.
How did you respond to loved ones broaching the subject, if anyone did? or did you honestly believe there to be no real problem? And anyone who suggested your problem, was the problem.
To the recovering, what was your turning point? If your willing to share that is. Was it something major, external, internal? I guess I know there will be many different answers depending on the person.
Lastly, did you find it easy to turn the blame of your drinking toward an innocent person or situation? Or did you even know you were doing this?
Ok, one more. How do you find recovery? Is it working for you and do you believe its possible eventually?
I would like to thank you if you've read and answered any of my questions.
ETA sorry for such a downer threadedit on 24-11-2012 by feelingconnected because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by FissionSurplus
Hubby used to drink, he had 3 DUIs to show for it. Every time he would drink, he would act the fool, and do dumb things like get behind the wheel and drive around. My intense disgust and refusal to participate started to wear on him, I guess. He wasn't that far gone that he would sacrifice me for alcohol, so he gave it up. Once in a while, he drinks, but I have strict rules: He has to stay home, cannot drive anywhere, and has to be able to handle his alcohol and not act stupid. It's no fun for him anymore, apparently. That suits me fine. A fourth DUI would mean mandatory jail time. It took us forever to pay off the third one, which he did right before I met him.
Because of that third DUI, he was passed over for many jobs which were very well-paying. It would always show on the background check. It's a shame, because he is a very talented programmer and data base analyst.
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Don't know how to help and am starting to realise I probably can't until they help themselves.
i am a recovering alcoholic, and i knew 100% that i was. anytime my wife brought up the fact that i drank everyday i would immediately dismiss the subject as how the thought of not having alcohol in my life terrified me.
Originally posted by feelingconnected
I realize this can be a touchy or highly personal subject matter. And I'm not sure I've put this in the right forum. I feel like having a rant, but no not this thread.. If anyone is willing or interested in answering a few questions on this topic, Id love to hear from you.
OK, so where to start, well what I'm wanting to ask is -During your alcoholism be it current or past, did you or do you know you had/have a problem with drinking? I'm really interested in this question.
How did you respond to loved ones broaching the subject, if anyone did? or did you honestly believe there to be no real problem? And anyone who suggested your problem, was the problem.
To the recovering, what was your turning point? If your willing to share that is. Was it something major, external, internal? I guess I know there will be many different answers depending on the person.
Lastly, did you find it easy to turn the blame of your drinking toward an innocent person or situation? Or did you even know you were doing this?
Ok, one more. How do you find recovery? Is it working for you and do you believe its possible eventually?
I would like to thank you if you've read and answered any of my questions.
ETA sorry for such a downer threadedit on 24-11-2012 by feelingconnected because: (no reason given)
I'm telling you this to help, not to be a jerk. You are showing classic signs of codependency, which can control your life and make it miserable.
Originally posted by feelingconnected
Thank you all for sharing you personal story, I have a loved one that is yet to admit a problem and although I don't want to make it about me. It's god dam driving me crazy, I'm at a loss. Don't know how to help and am starting to realise I probably can't until they help themselves. They have also shown early signs of medical problems. Thank you again.edit on 24-11-2012 by feelingconnected because: (no reason given)