reply to post by feelingconnected
I'm an off and on alcoholic. I was up to a case of beer a night. Then more recently I started posting in an addiction recovery thread and was sober
for about a month after that. I'm back drinking again now.
trust me when I say I can find any reason to validate my drinking.
Woke up tired this morning... Drink.
Burned my eggs to hell, no more left to make breakfast... Drink.
Hungover? ... Drink.
Job interview... Drink.
going out of the house... Drink.
Games on? ... Drink.
And if anyone tried to stop me I would use clever jokes and strong sounding arguments as to why I should have opened that beer. If you press me beyond
this point I would start distancing my self from you or we would start fighting. If someone started telling me I needed to stop all together, I could
have easily pushed them out of my life completely.
I still have issues with drinking, but now it's much less of a problem than it was. My girlfriend doesn't drink much anymore, so that helps a lot.
Just being around good people doing something out in the sun and having fun without beer helps.
As far as helping someone quit mostly you have to be there for them no matter what, but you cannot back down from letting them know that you THINK
they have a problem. You FEEL that they are drinking entirely too much, and is there anything you could help them with?
I know for me I'm not just randomly an alcoholic. I have my reasons. Maybe you could get them to talk about it.
One main trick is the difference between 1 and 2,
1) Being an alcoholic who is going to quit drinking
2) being a sober person who doesn't drink.
one of those is framing a problem and moving away from it.
The other one is framing a positive life that has no problem.
#2 is the person who will make it.
edit on 11/24/2012 by Dustytoad because: (no reason given)