posted on Nov, 25 2012 @ 12:34 AM
You shouldn't hate women for the reasons you list. So many men think women are complicated, but they are not. It is quite easy to understand them
once you view the whole picture on the basis of instinct and reproduction. Women are pickier for a reason; a biological reason. And the reason why
women always treat the nice guy one way, and the jerk another, is that attraction is not something the women choose to have. They like the nice guy,
and may even date him, because their head is telling them this is the kind of person they need to be with.
But in reality, because of their instincts and biology, they are magnetically drawn to a guy who attracts them. This is usually something that happens
for no apparent reason, but there are subtle reasons behind this. So you do not "get" women, rather you "attract" them. Sort of like fishing I
guess, lol. You can go buy fish at the store, or you can go fishing in the pond. Wait...What I'm saying is that you have to draw them to you, instead
of going after them.
And it does not matter what women say they want most of the time. And by trying to please a woman you barely know by giving in to her every desire is
not attractive to her. This behavior shows that you are weak, and weakness is the opposite of what you should be portraying. Money is one thing women
are attracted to, but for most it is not a necessity that you be rich. Good looks can sometimes help, but women aren't wired as much as men for going
after looks. The most important thing is personality in a guy. And that is great news for most guys, considering your personality is something that
you can change more easily than some of the other things that attract women.
Even if she asked you to come over, and even if you wanted to, tell her no. Or rather tell her you're comfortable, and that she can come to your
place. Do not give in as much with anything, especially when you do not know each other well. But that does not mean you cannot be "nice." The real
secret, or trick if you will, is that often times being "mean" is what the woman really wants. It is what makes her feel good inside. But the key is
to know when you are really being hurtful, and when you are being mean in a good way. Sometimes this is more playful, but sometimes it is much more
subtle. I cannot explain it all that well, and although it sounds cryptic or counter-intuitive, this has been my experience.
Something I learned a long time ago was this: the best way to get a girl is to not want one. Having the mindset that you are not trying to impress or
get a girl to like you is half of the battle, because instantly you will behave differently. But there are many other important factors as well, and
some of them can be changed for the better just by improving your life. If you value yourself more, it will show on the outside, and will be more
attractive. And if you are not the confident guy that women like, fake it until you make it. It really works if you can keep at it. Carry yourself
like a confident person, slow down your speech and deepen your voice just a bit. Doing this all the time will get you used to it, but the key is to
constantly remind yourself to do it.
Tell yourself that you're valuable. But never insult a woman, even if you think she deserves it. Especially in front of other women. There are a ton
of "rules," but they are mostly common sense once you understand how women think and why they do the things that they do. I hope this helped you at
least a little bit. The best advice I think you could get right now, and I don't mean this is a bad way, but stop whining! lol. Be bold and
confident, and do not let anything bother you. Make your life more about YOU, and you will see improvement. You have to learn to balance being a jerk
and rude or offensiveness, as the latter is not attractive to women. The best way to do this is to use humor as much as possible. Also, find areas of
your life that you would like to see improvement, aside from women, and improve those aspects first. Good luck.