reply to post by DocHolidaze
We can learn from more than mistakes, if the mistake is not necessary we can grow in other ways. We can learn from our success just the same as our
failures and if we learn from our failures then they become a success. Life will always be full of challenges and obstacles to overcome, that's just
what keeps things interesting. Why do we read a book or watch a movie? What's around the next corner, I just gotta know.
Edit: Honestly I think we're in a state of arrested development these days, for many reasons. For one, many are afraid of failure, afraid to make a
mistake because their peers will make fun of them and lay punishment or wrath upon them. So they simply don't even try for the sake of avoiding
possible failure and likely punishment for that mistake.
Take my mother for instance. When she was young her parents and siblings would punish her greatly for even the tiniest mistake. She told me a story
when she had received a perm and was told not to get it wet, apparently that would ruin the perm. That same day her parents took her and her siblings
to the beach where she inevitably got her hair wet. When they arrived home her mother picked her up by her hair and threw her as punishment for
getting her hair wet. Granted if you didn't want your child to get her hair wet why take her to the beach, but that's besides the point.
My mother no longer tries to do anything, anything at all because she is afraid of what wrath might come for her failure, what judgment and ridicule
might await her for her mistakes. She is human after all and as such she still makes her mistakes, but she lies about them. She lies about them to
herself to justify her lies and she lies about them to others in an attempt to avoid their ridicule or in the case of work avoid a 'write up' or
"AI/Action Item" as they call their scarlet letters there.
And so those who would punish her have punished themselves. Because of the punishment they would bestow they are now ignorant to the truth. They beg
others to lie to them for they would punish those who reveal the truth. There is more to the punishment, I know my mother enjoys making things, but
she doesn't because she's afraid she's not good enough. So those who would convince her she is not worthy, those who would judge and ridicule her
have deprived themselves of the good works she would have otherwise done.
My mother is aware, on some level, of my beliefs, but she refuses to hear them out. You see she is deathly afraid of failure and she's believed in
the "American Dream" for so long she doesn't want to believe that was a mistake. When I open my mouth she raises her voice, has even threatened to
beat me to shut me up. She's afraid, afraid of what it would mean if I'm right. She's been afraid of failure for so long she will simply refuse to
accept it on every level, she will lie, she will block it out. What have they done?
edit on 23-11-2012 by Symbiot because: (no reason