posted on Nov, 22 2012 @ 07:44 AM
Originally posted by Bluesma
I really vary on that.
When I am with another person, my view depends highly upon theirs- I adjust to create a sense of balance with them. Like if they are very positive, I
might interject some of the negative, or vice versa.
I guess my constant sense is that every moment is a balanced mix of positive and negative and if you are only seeing one, you have your eyes closed to
half the picture, and that is where relationships and others are helpful- you can focus on one side, and they on the other!
Alone I always see both, and many times I have had people on forums comment that I am probably one of those people who can argue with themself for
hours... why, yes, I am. I can hold a debate with myself and often do while driving, for fun.
I have a husband who is ultra positive- his way of coping in life was to deny all negative aspects of reality, and in some ways that works for him (he
reinforces the positive) but it fails miserably in some cases where others are involved and a problem needs to be recognized and tended to. So I often
end up being the one with the bad news while with him. He balances it well by being the voice of sunshine, and it works for us.
22-11-2012 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)
Very interesting perspective. I often find myself reacting more than acting when dealing with others. I see it as a way of being truely interactive
with them. Unless our reactions are a result of their actions, then we aren't really communicating, we're dictating.
I spent a great deal of my life "setting the tone" and conforming others to my views. Now, as I grow a bit older (and hopefully wiser), I make an
effort to interact more and to experience the views of others more effectively.
It can be quite draining at times and uplifting at others. I do have to temper myself a bit or I find myself doing it subconsciously and it can really
take from our own persona. Those who are negative often drain me of my energy and happiness and I have to guard myself a little more carefully.
Looking at all sides of the argument is one of the best ways to come to understanding, we just have to be sure not to get lost in the maze on the way
to the end. This is a gift that isn't easily adapted to, but you seem to have a firm grasp on it.
Do you sometimes feel yourself "shutting off emotions" while interacting? Perhaps as a way to protect yourself or even to protect others?
Life has indeed been an interesting journey. Our philosophies change as the years pass by, but in our own minds they are stationary. I'm not the same
person I was ten years ago, yet I am the same person... the depth of our reality is completely dependent upon the perspective with which we view it