Originally posted by jziegler
reply to post by galadofwarthethird
That is what I am planning on doing. Working on myself and figuring out who and what I want in a relationship. My question to men is: Why do they feel
the need to sleep with so many women? is it a power issue?
Excellent OP sounds like you need to get your head right before you do whatever it is you will do.
To answer your questions.
Why do they feel the need to sleep with so many women?
Well since there seems to be a lot of women who like sleeping with them then the answer is a total duh...Duh like totally. Because they want to and
because they can. After all its not like when they sleep around they sleep with themselves now is it? It takes two to tango, and in this case more
then two, quite a few actually.
And well they don't seem to be having all that hard of time finding women who are willing to sleep with them
and in some cases what looks like every other day or so. The answer is you know, kind of self explanatory.
You question makes no sense, they do it because they can and they want to, just like the women who sleep with them do it because they can and want
to. The rest of the reasons would not matter much, as actions speak louder then words.
is it a power issue?
I suppose for men it would be a power issue. And for most of the females it would be a control issue.
But I do not think that is really the whole issue, what can I say the dude is a slut, what more is there to it.
It seems you are attracted to
such men, so you have your answer even if you don't want to look at it. Most such things are not all that complicated, its like growing plants in a
garden, what you take care of, what you put the most effort in, what you water and feed the most, and what you support and help grow. Is what will
grow and what will be predominant in your garden, literally you reap as you sow.
And seeing as that thing that you seem to be feeding and supporting is duchey and slutty dudes, what are you now surprised that its become a theme
in your life and you have quantum entangled yourself into such a thing? Its like this, lets say I have a bunch of strawberries that I want to grow in
a patch of ground, but all around those strawberries there are a whole bunch of dandelions. So to help those strawberries grow, I never water them
or feed them or cultivate and take care of them, but I water feed and cultivate the dandelions around them as a way to help the strawberries grow and
Now does that make sense to you? Most things are at there premise and core pretty simple, people just like to complicate things.
So that is why your question is not "why do I attract certain type of dudes" Your question is "why am I attracted to those certain type of dudes"
Because none of them and none of it would be there to the extent it is if you did not water and feed it all, if you get what I am trying to say.
How does that nursery rhyme go...Mary, Mary, quite contrary, How does your garden grow?