Originally posted by MagesticEsoteric
Hopefully I put this in the right forum....it's certainly not a conspiracy of any sorts but, I just need to vent out some frustrations in hopes someone else here can relate to what I am experiencing lately.

To start, I have two boys aged 4 and 10 that I love dearly...more than life itself. Any parents here know exactly what I mean. We reach a point where we are living for them...am I right?

I love them so much that it hurts sometimes....wondering if I'm doing or saying the right things....teaching them the right things.....hoping that I'm not screwing up their future lives by what I say or do now to to help them navigate this present existence and their future.

Having said that about my two little darlings, they seem hell bent on making my present life a living hell!

All they do is fight and argue with one another...constantly!!!!!!

My home feels like a boxing ring and I'm the referee.

I spend most of my time breaking up fights and arguments more than anything else. Trying to make things equal and fair as best as I can but, I'm TIRED!!!

I know I'm in it for the long haul (obviously) and, I know I can't just lock them up in a closet or a basement somewhere until they turn 18.

But, any advice on how to keep my sanity would be much appreciated.

Oh, and locking myself in the bathroom doesn't work....they always find me and just pound on the door until I come back out.

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Originally posted by resoe26
Wait... You have a husband right?
-Maybe you should start acting more like an ethnic mother.... You know, grab the broom and start bashing heads in with it. My mother always did that.

And I tell you what, my siblings and I LISTEN RIGHT EFFIN NOW to anything my father or mother say even to this day. Because my parents never played those games.
They tell you once to stop doing something or to go do something....
BETTER DO IT or thats your A$$.

It's something I have carried over to my children.
My son is only 2 years old. I get more compliments on his manners than anything and how cute he is. But the boy listens because if he doesn't, either I make him get in the front lean and rest (Pushup position) or he stands in the corner. (Decided to not be violent like my parents :lol

Tell them only ONE time. If they don't listen, repercussions madam.

Originally posted by nixie_nox
You actually learn more from your siblings than you do your parents. You learn how to fight (obviously) compromise, play, learn. When you get older, how and who to date. (YEs the older ones do get saddled with the role model responsibility)
Your sibling is the only person on earth who knows what it is like to be you growing up. You share birthdays, holidays, in some cases, schools.

So while it maybe very trying ,sometimes, just remember that it is a very important relationship. And the older one is old enough now to learn to be a role model.

Originally posted by MagesticEsoteric

Originally posted by resoe26
Wait... You have a husband right?
-Maybe you should start acting more like an ethnic mother.... You know, grab the broom and start bashing heads in with it. My mother always did that.

And I tell you what, my siblings and I LISTEN RIGHT EFFIN NOW to anything my father or mother say even to this day. Because my parents never played those games.
They tell you once to stop doing something or to go do something....
BETTER DO IT or thats your A$$.

It's something I have carried over to my children.
My son is only 2 years old. I get more compliments on his manners than anything and how cute he is. But the boy listens because if he doesn't, either I make him get in the front lean and rest (Pushup position) or he stands in the corner. (Decided to not be violent like my parents :lol

Tell them only ONE time. If they don't listen, repercussions madam.

I'm glad you chose not to take the violent approach with your own...I lived in a very abusive home until I was 15. After my mom passed away, I saw no reason to live in my abusive step-fathers home any longer so, I left to live in foster care until 18.

I simply refuse to raise my children that way so, like you, found other ways to discipline them that are just as effective in my opinion.

You know, the funny thing is...when they are in school and at friends/families homes, they are perfect little angels! I also get compliments on their manners and behavior so, it's something they are really only doing at home.

When I started this thread, I said that hoped I put it in the right forum b/c it wasn't really a conspiracy. Perhaps I was wrong...maybe it IS a conspiracy! They are both conspiring to drive me crazy.