reply to post by MagesticEsoteric
I feel your pain, I have a one of each, five and nine respectively...They are a real pain!
Hang on in there, for as long as they are well behaved at school, and outside the home in general, then its all paying off.
You're their parent....Pushing your buttons is their day job, and how they learn to be super great humans (eventually).
In the meantime, may I suggest regular family playfights, let them beat each other, and you for that matter, it will help to release some tension,
just block their moves with you elbow, before long they will think you are super human, because it will hurt them a bit, but not you. In our house we
call it "huggles on the bed", it generally involves me trying to hug the kids, while they think of ways to "bring me down!" Believe it or not they
really enjoy it, and it cuts down the actuall physical fighting in the house between them.
Sometimes the kids need to know who is in charge, they want a show of strength, not in any sinister, or negatively violent manner, think lioness with
her cubs, they fight, they "Raa," they try to scratch each others eyes out, but the second an outsider looks at one of them the wrong way, they will
back each other up.
Oh one last thing....Never feel as though you live just for your kids, it will only build resentment, and one day they will fly the nest. Live each
day for you, and by extension, let your kids live each day for themselves.
edit on 15-11-2012 by solargeddon because: (no reason