Okay, here is the entire current situation. At this point, it's been all over the local news anyway, and we live in a small town so everyone knows
who we are...and I don't really think anyone on ats is gonna hunt us down and do anything bad to us. My son's name is Will and he is 8. My fiance
and I had just gotten engaged and moved in together on the first of septemeber. He has 2 boys, 11 and 13 years old, and then I have Will. We had 6
weeks of Brady Bunch quality bliss...it was wonderful. I am so blessed to have my new family
Will and the 2 older boys asked us on October 18 if they could ride their bicycles down the street (about 4 blocks and then cross one street) to the
park. Mr. Dustbowl deferred to me, as the youngest and most vulnerable child is mine. His kids have ridden their bikes all over town for years, and
their mother is a cop, so they know the rules of the road and to ride against traffic, etc...so I felt comfortable enough to let them go. They were
told to be back home in 45 minutes. About 40 minutes later we heard sirens and then the 11 year old came running to the door screaming that Will had
been hit by a car. We live in Duncan, OK and while we have a nice hospital, it is not equipped to deal with pediatric issues as serious as this, so
he was medi-flighted to OKC to Children's Hospital, where he received excellent care for 11 days. Total diagnosis was fractured skull, traumatic
brain injury (axonal brain injury) with swelling and bleeding on the brain, bruised liver, bruised lung, 3 broken ribs, broken pelvis, broken femur
and then the top two (C1 and C2) vertebrae (the ones at the base of the skull) showed separation, but no damage to spinal cord, and the tendons and
ligaments in the right side of his neck were torn.
He has a cast running from his toe up to his groin, a nasal feeding tube and an aspen brace that starts at his neck and goes down to his waist.
We have now been moved to a place called The Childrens Center in Bethany, OK, which is a rehab/hospital combo type of thing. I just live there with
him, since we live an hour and a half from the city. They have the convertable chair/bed things and I sleep next to his bed in that every night.
Currently, he has been moved to stage 5 on the rancho scale, his cast *may* come off today and he is now eating some pureed food. Once he is eating
well enough to sustain himself and can take his meds (about 15 different ones) by mouth, the nose tube will come out. The brace will be on for at
least another 4 weeks, and if his neck does not satisfy the Ice Queen (his neurosurgeon who has the worst bedside manner I've ever encountered), she
is talking about a halo or fusing the vertebrae in his neck. Obviously, before I let her do anything invasive, I will be getting a second opinion,
probably from Baylor in Texas. And that's where we stand for now.
Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. Please concentrate on healing his brain - his body is healing nicely as far as the broken bones are
concerned. There are parts of his brain which still do not have blood flow and won't ever work again. But the docs say there is no telling what
those dead parts control or what memories they may contain. He does talk some, and has memories, but they are older ones from 3 or 4 years ago.
If there are any medical experts who would and/or could offer me any advice, I'm open to just about anything. Also, some tech guru (and I know there
are some on ATS!) needs to develop an app that shuts down phones if they are in motion at a certain velocity. There needs to be a way to stop people
from even looking at their phones, taking their eyes off the road for even a second, when behind the wheel!!!
This is my sweet boy, straight-A student, and former participant in 2 karate classes, 2 jiu jitsu classes and 1 sparring class per week. I know that
sometimes a picture of the person can help with sending reiki and shambala, so here you go:
It's an older one from when he first started martial arts, but the newest I have on this particular computer.
As much as I hate facebook, I started him a page there:
If you would like to add him, please send me a message along with your friend request, so I know you are a friend from ats.
I don't know if I broke any of the t&c's of ats with all of this personal info, but I'm not afraid to share it here. And if you DO happen to be a
wackadoo who has a thought about harming me or him, I will have you know that the place he is at is locked down and guarded like a prison
are all about keeping us safe there.
And VERY SPECIAL THANK YOU to Chiefsmom for starting this for me. When I wrote to her, we were having a really bad day and I was in a really bad
place and couldn't bring myself to start a thread without losing it again. Thank you SO much, ma'am!!!