Originally posted by ascension211
reply to post by nixie_nox
Shame on you for not having a heart or the decency to even read what I did write. My son does not hate me and I did this for him, too.
You already said that you did this for your wife, not him. Leaving a boy at the most difficult years of his life is not helping him. Do you think he
will come right out and say he hates you? He maybe afraid you will leave his life altogether. It does not mean he is ok with this situation. You WANT
him to be ok with this situation, and you are trying to convince us he doesn't hate you. He may not hate you, but it does not mean he is ok. He may
have other feelings, such as loss of self esteem, abandonement, and depression. Hate isn't the only concern.
I was not selfish in this choice.
You chose your wife and her needs over that of your own child, yes you are. You need to own it.
This has as much to do with him as it does me.
Oh please, explain it to me.
I have clarity of thought in my decision making process.
Did you? You are living cash strapped in another country away from your kin.
You are severely mistaken in your judgment and it is obviously clouded by your own hatred for a man in your life.
Nice try to deflect responsibility on to me, but no. My dad is coming to help me with my surgery at the end of the month. While he sucked as a father
and made poor decisions, I do not hate him, he will just have to live with his choices, and atone for them when he goes to the other side.
I feel sorry for you.
Don't feel sorry for me, I know what my kid is doing every second of the day, if I don't see him. He just told how he is proud that he beat the first
level on his Indiana Jones game. I don't have to worry about his wellbeing or go on a website, trying to find ways to get into touch with him. I will
be there for every important stage in his life, and he can count on me to be there, especially for the most difficult times. I have even manged to
maintain a friendly relationship with his father, though it was an abusive relationship, because it is important that my child have me to depend on,
and to know that we both love him.
Clearly you are not qualified to judge me.
Oh I am more then qualified.
Not only have I had an abusive, manipulative spouse, I have also been near death, been in multiple car accidents, awaiting my second surgery for the
last one. I am also disabled, with a degenerative bone disease and fibromyalgia.
But I see from your posts you are only worried about your happiness. I hope one of your siblings is being a less selfish father figure.
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