Originally posted by nitro67
Very sad. You mention he recently stopped his meds? Do you know if they were ssri's? I took them when I was 18 for about three months, then decided to stop abruptly, and almost died. Completely crazy, no control over emotions, total lack of sense of self, horrible experience. I never understood how someone could kill themselves until I experienced that withdrawal. SSRI drugs must be taken carefully, and I hope doctors are today giving patients the knowledge that you will go through withdrawal if you do not ween yourself off of them....

No, I do not know what meds he was on. I know they changed through the years and evidentally nothing was working well enough for him. There are so many side affects.

I'm glad to hear that you made it through and are still here with us today!

Originally posted by scar
Sorry to hear of your loss. I have had a dear friend of mine, that had chosen the path of your friend. I think of her often.
Just remember that time heals. They are in a better place. Trust me.

I am sorry that you lost a dear friend as well. I do trust you and believe that they are in a better place. Thank you!

Originally posted by lonewolf19792000
Well, all his troubles in this world are done with. Getting off his meds was a bad idea and probably what contributed to his sudden death. I take it he must have been manic depressive or bi-polar? Fine one minute and the next, hanging themselves in the closet. Hard deal. I had a friend shoot himself in the head with his .357 magnum, never even saw it coming and it was because his ex-wife took his daughter from him. Closed casket funeral, not much left of your head when you use a magnum.

How very tragic. I am so very sorry to hear that. It is so dificult for all those left behind. I can imagine how traumatic that must have been for his family and friends.

Originally posted by Advantage
Hey Night
Im terribly sorry for your loss. Even as a pen friend and not physically close, you form emotional/mental bonds and hurt just as much. I hope you can be there for the others who are touched by this terrible thing.... as some of us can be here for you.

If you need me.. you know how to get me. I can be an ear.

Thank you! Yes it started as pen-friends then 5 years ago I got my first computer and we kept in touch that way. I knew him for many years. Thanks for being here for me and if I can return the favor, let me know.

Originally posted by Miri08
I am very sorry to read of your loss. The going off the meds and then trying or accomplishing suicide, hits very close to home. While I will never encourage suicide for obvious reasons, I can understand the amount of mental pain that one can have and the need for release of that pain. Mental pain can be every bit as tortuous as physical pain. It can consume a person.

I can also say, with certainty, that your friend appreciated you so very much and that you did contribute to making the life he had, better. It can be so hard for someone with mental illness to find even just one person who shines a light in their world and I believe that you did that for your friend.

I hope that your friend is finally at peace, I believe they are and I hope that you cherish the good memories and take solace in knowing that you did make a difference for him even though the outcome was what it was.

Thank you so much,you are so sweet. I do know that he appreciated our friendship and my being there for him through his struggles through the years. That makes me feel better.

I have found that throughout my life, it is often the simple things that matter most, like just being there for someone and validating their feelings, giving them compassion and understanding. Even humor goes a long way. It is very easy for people to help others and to make a difference in their lives. Often you hear people who say they feel so helpless and don't know what to say or do. Hell, there are times when even words arn't needed, just offer a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on, or a big bear hug.

Even the smallest candle can shed light in the darkest of hours. We are all little lights in someone's world.

Maybe he was not wrong, just because he didn't follow the same path as everyone else

"To die is different from what any one supposed, and luckier" Walt Whitman.

So sorry to hear this

My prayers are with you.

sincere condolences on the passing of your friend.... always hard outliving the people around us .... the physical body is gone but their spirit is always with us... they live on in our hearts and memories...