What is your moral barrier?, page 2


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reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 01:40 AM by trysts
reply to post by dontreally



I think morality is based in empathy, and I think it must be learned, and practiced. My moral barrier? I really don't know of a moral barrier. I think about people and animals all the time while reading about, and watching their plight in life. I don't look upon things like selling drugs as morally wrong. If you would like to sell heroin to your friends or acquaintances I am not morally offended by it. If you want to commit suicide, I don't think that's morally wrong. If you want to physically harm others then I think that is terribly wrong.
There are very few general principals attached to morality, in my view. But those few moral principals are complex and varied. Initiating physical harm to others without their consent is one. While a pugilist would have consent to physically hurt their opponent, this society finding pugilism to be acceptable. I find it distasteful, but I also know that there are those who look upon it as a sport of skill.
If you wish to take heroin every day until you have no job or shelter, then that in itself is not morally wrong, in my view, even though such circumstances could lead one to steal in this particular society. But if one lived in Laos among the poppy fields, then it may not be the case that those people would need steal a thing.

Morality is quite complex, deserving of a lifetime of reflection on the many diverse conditions and variables involved in each person's plight, and not something easily understood by any means, in my view


reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 01:58 AM by JAK
I've been thinking on morality for years and ultimately ErgoTheConclusion's "Only in the moment of action" understanding seems to hold more weight than anything else, intent.

If, as has been raised here already, we use the extreme example of taking a life there can be justifying circumstances. The defence of the innocent being the most obvious. In certain scenarios even this act which must surely be the ultimate taboo seems easily justifiable. If we look back in time though it is said that in Spartan society it was a rite of passage that a male youth kill a Helot slave now the actual accuracy if this assertion may be up for debate but that need not carry any weight here. If we just take the scenario the the moral questions raised become quite interesting.

For the discussion here let's just say the child has been raised in a society where such an act is ingrained just as has been suggested - nothing more than a rite of passage. How much blame can really be heaped upon the shoulders of those who simply play out this scenario, the child who has been told since he was old enough to understand that this act is not only acceptable but praiseworthy?

It seems difficult to lay blame at the feet of the individual in this case. Perhaps it might be argued that the individual should have realised that the act was immoral but we are talking of a child going against everything they have been raised to accept and they have seen practised in society. Looking at the argument offered in this paragraph is it really so clear cut that the individual should be capable of reflection and independent thought to such a degree? We can argue that should be the case but not having been raised in such a society or being able to experiment with such scenarios it's little more than conjecture. We can be generous to the individual and say that the task is beyond them, that since they were old enough to understand they have been completely conditioned to accept this situation and remove the idea of responsibility for what we see today as an immoral act or we can say that despite the difficulties they should be capable of understanding the situation and having the moral fortitude to stand alone against the rest of society. Even then though it seems to me that both of those paths and the actions they lead to are ultimately defined by the understanding the individual has and then the intent.

The individual could realise that the situation is abhorrent yet still go through with the act and so we have an immoral act or they could simply follow through with this rite of passage and we have an act that is not immoral. (Note that the description here of moral and immoral is not resting upon the understanding we have as a present day observer considering this but the understanding of the individual in the exercise.)

It seems at a certain stage the act itself loses any claim to moral or immoral and only the individual can accept responsibility for that title. If that is so though it seems very harsh to demand that the individual should have had the insight to understand the act as we do today with our advantages of hindsight, detached consideration, current societal moral standards, education... The only conclusion I have managed to reach is that in such a scenario they may have had the insight, they may not. The morality of the act though seems to be dependant on the understanding they have at the time, after which and as stated above, it comes down to choice, to intent.

To use the argument of mitigating circumstances in order to excuse the individual here may be appropriate to a degree but it seems that the underlying question is one of morality which exists outside that argument. Is the act immoral? In this case we could say yes, but while the individual who committed the act is guilty of committing an immoral act they are not guilty of acting in an immoral way. If we take that answer though where does the idea or morality lie? There is an eternal and external morality but it has no authority on it's own? We come back to the idea of individual intent.

We can justify the objectively immoral action of murder through the subjective argument such as Spock's 'The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few'. It's simple, logical but cold. Surely morality should be warm and caring though? The nobility of mankind. Say you steal from the small, family owned shop to deprive the owner of a petty profit which, by itself, he would not miss - you feed your family for a day. It seems a morally acceptable action. If the situation is dire though and many people do the same the shopkeeper's family fall into poverty, he loses the business and they become destitute. Are all those who stole innocent of the accusation of immorality?

Are moral standards eternal, external and ruthless or malleable and subjective? If moral responsibility can be separated from the act so easily then what authority can morality really carry?



reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 02:25 AM by SplitInfinity
reply to post by dontreally


Moral Barriers are Relative in the sense that what may seem immoral to one may seem perfectly acceptable to another. They there is Cause and Effect which can dictate how a person views an action. In the end...it is all RELATIVE.

My Psych and Social Testing stated I had a certain....Moral Flexibility which is a trait that is sought after by certain groups. In my experiences...it is up to the individual to access what they will or will not do. Those who look for others to tell them it is OK to act in a manner that the person finds Morally Questionable...are just using that OK as an excuse.

We all make our own Beds...and we have to lie in them. Split Infinity


reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 02:27 AM by manykapao
reply to post by JAK



I like that example. I would argue that the child would be morally obligated to kill. The moral good would be in acting in accordance with his societies expectation, adhering to its limits. Sparta needed good soldiers, not sensitive people.

Is paying taxes you know will go to war efforts immoral? The act of not complying with a social obligation are what defines something as immoral. We all say that killing is bad, and so it is immoral, because that is what we as a society have decided based on our limits to such behavior.

It is all based on our societies expectations, since morality is a product of civilization. The very concept has no place in the natural world. You do to survive, and cruelty like morality have no place in that scenario other than its weight in terms of survivability.

Morality is the limits placed on an individual's decision making process by the rest of society where total control is not possible by the authority of rule. Since you cannot make people to stop an activity by simply declaring it illegal, you have to place a moral obligation in which all of society participates and so enforces the rule.

An example would be during the Spanish civil war. My grandmother would tell me that throwing food away was a sin. Not dumb, or some other reason. It was an act of immorality. The reason was that since in her society during the civil war, food was scarce. Throwing away the scraps of a plate when people were starving created tensions, since they would gladly take them. SO for her generation, her societies model, people cleaned their plate. They would not serve too much in case they could not finish their plate, because they would then be committing a "sin". Not unto god, but unto their societies limits.

Look at our society. Child molestation should be nonexistent by simply declaring it illegal. It is not, and so there is a very powerful social stigma attached where the person doing such an act, is morally the worst possible scum bag on earth, rightly so. The reason is because society has limits to that behavior and recognizes the damage to the victim, and really to society as well as a whole when many people grow up being damaged and mal adjusted. The moral charge to it is to make it more than illegal and so less practiced. To make it apparent that it is being weighed against survivability itself. Like the natural world does.

Or for instance substance abuse. The counter argument is always one of questioning the moral implications. "who are they hurting?". It is illegal, but tolerated because the moral implications are not strong enough to assess who is actually being hurt. Weighed against survivability, it is not that heavy, where as people traumatizing each other is. So it is easier to see a substance abuser rahter than a child molester in greater numbers, but both are illegal. Only one has the moral consequence society enforces collectively.

Your example might define the limit of sensitivity that Sparta as a society could tolerate. They lived off war, their very survival depended on their people being able to take a life. If the boy failed his moral obligation to his society then the threat of society failing to meet its needs is very real. The threat of failing to adhere to its limits of sensitivity could lead to a less survivable situation. So it could be declared a moral failure by threatening society.

If you need warriors to survive, then war is not immoral, and not assisting the creation of warriors could be seen as immoral since it puts society at odds with its survival.

In a tribe, If you need to steal from people to survive as a society, then theft might not be immoral, since if you stop the raids on lesser tribes your tribe dies. ect....

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reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 02:30 AM by Bluesma
I tend to consider that most morality is a cultural thing (as far as set ethical systems), and that respecting the system of wherever you are in the moment is the best idea. This is conducive to effective relations and communications with others.

Besides that, i like to say that we cannot decide the morality of an act in reality except in the moment and with the context, and even then, there is always unknown factors that could knock our judgement off base- we can only do the best we can and be aware that we might be wrong anyway.

I'm pretty sensitive, and tend to feel repulsed to any choice that might hurt someone else in any way.
The problem can lie in mistaking what would hurt another or not (why culture comes in).

Despite this view, I still have conditioned repulsions to certain acts or behaviors that I cannot change.
Like I am ferociously monogamous, despite being in a country now that is much less condemning of infidelity.
Especially at my age, most couples are becoming swingers around us, but I cannot seem to wipe away my deepest values and ethics.

I also still have a strong tendancy to obey and respect rules and authority, though the culture here tends to have the idea that they exist FOR breaking (which is why laws are so often set that make no sense- because it is assumed they will be purposely broken by everyone).

Heck, you can kill someone here and get out of it if you can prove you were feeling passionate at the time! We have a guy in our little village that once chopped up his wife with an ax!


The challenging part of that is learning to respect everyone elses right to have radically different ethics- not applying your own to them, or imagining that they feel the same as you.
I might imagine my boss would be mad if I did the opposite of what he told me to do- but that turns out to be wrong (he gets mad when I obey him to the letter instead),
I can imagine my husband would be hurt if I slept with someone else, when in reality it might actually turn him on and make him a bit proud that his wife is so desireable to others and sexually assertive!

This kind of difference has really made me have to own my feeligns and not project them (I am mad when my employees don't obey, I would feel hurt if my husband slept with someone else......)

So my moral barrier, as you say, or "limits" are very personal for me, and in some cases, no longer even are based on how they would effect another! I don't sleep with others because it would make ME uncomfortable and unhappy, not out of concern for anyone else.

This does make the issue less clear, of what ethical and moral behavior is exactly.
I can sound, in theory, very morally "loose" when I speak of relativity and all..... but anyone that has ever known me in person will say that I am actually maybe too self controlled. That is what I hear often anyway.

Or maybe it is just the french that feel I am, in contrast. I don't know. That's basically my most repeated phrase everyday. "I don't know"

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reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 04:24 AM by violet
Originally posted by dontreally
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Now, if you seduce the girl next door, or she seduces you, then we enter the gray areas.


If the girl isn't married, or in a relationship with someone else, it's more white than grey.

But if she's in a relationship and you only mean to snatch her away, than that's black, and should be seen as bad.

A part of doing what is 'communally' right is understanding and respecting other people. If we don't respect the value of a relationship between two other people, and act in some way that undermines it, than we have broken a sacred trust. Whether that trust be the trust between yourself and some higher spiritual ideal, or the communal trust, which seeks to preserve public order.


This is a reply to me? I never said the above quote. I'm confused.


reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 08:21 AM by kat2684
reply to post by Bilky




I stole a pack of skittles when I was 5, I had to take it back to the manager, apologize.Then got whipped with a belt......That was the first and last time I stole anything other then a sheet of paper.....or the occasional pen from the bank (not intentionally).

As for being a kid, I stole from my big sisters, their clothes, make up, jewlry.....but I returned it, and we lived under the same roof so technically its fine......I won't steal from strangers, and if it hasn't fell within the realm of stationary items...I never took it.
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reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 09:07 AM by ErgoTheConclusion
Originally posted by dontreally
Only in the moment of action do you "know" "why" you acted the way you did. If you stole for "good", then you stole for good. If you stole for "evil" then you stole for evil. It's that simple.

So there's no infraction in your mind against the concept of ownership? If something is "his", and I understand it as his, what gives me the right to ignore that and take it? I would expect the same understanding from anyone else with regard to what is mine.

It depends entirely on the nature of the interaction.

There are circumstances where to punish someone who took from me without asking, were I to be honest, I would be doing the greater evil. I have alternative responses available. There are circumstances where my dogmatism adhering to "it's MINE!" will do more harm to my fellow man and culture than their "theft" would.

If we follow the concept of ownership far enough along, we will see that nothing is "ours". You seem to have missed the purpose of asking "who are you really stealing from?"

There are more and less responsible (aka sustainable) ways for people to interact and manage the material we have at our disposal, but no rigid boundary will ever suffice for definition. Thus we always eventually fall back to intent as the genuine last arbiter, especially for "technically" equal "crimes" where the nature is different.

Originally posted by dontreally

The simplicity continues forever though. As we are given the freedom to retroactively change our definitions such that we can later interpret our previous action(s) as having been for the alternate "reason(s)".

That's a ridiculous reductionism.

If you wish to label it as such.

I'd be willing to wager you do it in practice though. Would you honestly claim you've never reflected on an "bad thing" that you or someone else has done in the past but now would no longer call it "bad" because your definitions and understandings have changed?
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reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 11:48 AM by trysts
reply to post by dontreally



There are so many very interesting and important thoughts surrounding morality. For instance, I believe no society can be in pursuit of being considered moral if murder is not agreed upon as being the first principal of morality. Also, I believe torture to fall into the same guidelines. And curiously, morality itself is of the highest importance, therefore morality, though rarely taught in the society I live in, should be taught to children like language is taught to children. A public school for basic education which does not require classes on morality, would be quite useless in teaching basic subjects such as language, history, sociology, or anything to do with politics. It seems a society will never be able to endeavor to be considered in pursuit of it's moral justification on this planet if children are not learning to understand morality.

It appears to me that morality should be grounded in what is the simplest observable understanding of what we basically are: Free. Living amongst a society of free beings makes for the appearance of morality simply because we have to learn to get along together. A moral society would have it's participants wanting to get along with one another. I don't mean to suggest loving, or even liking everyone in your society, but rather behaving in such a way as to allow for mutual respect of each others freedom through empathy.


reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 11:49 AM by dontreally
reply to post by JAK



I don't want to go into how such iniquity entered social mores, but I think that line of argument detracts from the nature of a proper understanding of morality.

Of course, in the situation you described, the individual in question is limited in his ability to make a moral decision; but that's only because iniquity, falsity, and stupidity has taken the place of the clarity of moral insight.

The golden rule is called the golden rule because it is supremely sensible: Do not do to others that which you do not want done to you. And the inverse: do to others that which you would want done to you.

Nature, by which I mean human nature, and our ability to understand, allows us to realize the evil of suffering. No one wants to suffer, therefore, do not bring suffering upon others. Your understanding obligates you to respect that understanding. Thus, if I do want people to steal from me, I should not steal from others. If I want my property to be respected, I want to respect other peoples property. <-- this is a proper line of moral reasoning and no 'retrospective' assessment changes the fact of my responsibility to myself and to others.

You may of course pervert your understanding of morality by saying 'i don't care about respecting property', therefore, I do not need to respect other peoples property. But that is just a personal delusion that ignores the objective status of property vis-a-vis members of a community.

As civilization has progressed, we have not only progressed technologically, i.e. materially, but also morally. And this is largely due, in my opinion, to the influence of Judaism (via Christianity), in that the person has come to take precedence to the principle. If you respect people, and understand that were living, feeling creatures, than no abstract, impersonal principle (such as what you describe) will take precedence over the person. I respect property and ownership because I know how I feel about the things I own, so therefore, I make an effort to understand and appreciate that others justifiably feel the same way.


If moral responsibility can be separated from the act so easily then what authority can morality really carry?


And yet every situation has its own context, and prescribes a definite course of action.

For example: I see my grandmother come home. I get up and give her a hug and a kiss. Why do I do that? Because of the idea of respecting your elders? There's always a principle which hovers above every moral action, dictating - based on context - how one should act. In the above scenario, if I don't get up to kiss her, I'm not showing my love or respect for her. Instead, I'm carelessly continue on with what I'm doing without taking a little time out to go up and hug/kiss her. In addition to that, the act carries with it an emotional power. As an old woman coming towards the end of her life, all she really has left is the knowledge of what she has accomplished in this world. Me, her grandson, I'm one of her accomplishments through her daughter. She comes home, I get up, give her a hug and kiss, and by doing so, I infuse her with an awareness of the good of her life.

Empathy and Love tends to be what were left with when we disregard our ego's for a moment.

In the scenario you described where multiple people steal from a shop owner, leaving the shop owner bankrupt/destitute. It's simple. As long as one does not have knowledge of the shop owners situation, you can't be held responsible. But if you become aware that many people are stealing from him, and this is likely to lead to his destitution, than you are morally obligated to not follow suit. And can all people come to this understanding? Probably not. But to those who do become aware, the obligation just doesn't "vanish" because you've discovered a 'disconnect' of sorts between the principle and the action. The principle exists when knowledge of the context is attained. You cannot excuse yourself at that point, not without breaking a law of your conscience.


reply posted on 8-11-2012 @ 02:34 PM by Jojo27
Just like most of the people mentioned above, morality is in the eyes of the beholder.

We were all raised in a diverse world full of diverse ideas and cultures. Some cultures that teach us to be more forgiving with ourselves, and some that teach us that self-infliction is the only true way to eradicate sin within ourselves.

But true morality, who we are as a person that makes us act the way we do - comes from the heart of the soul. Some people have hard trusting souls, and tend to bash other people out of their lives. Making themselves distant when it comes to the idea of stealing things for survival, or holding someone at knife point for cash. Their untrusting, crushed hopes, and lack of education to push them past their early lives, or lack of believe in the things they were taught - lead them to a life full of acts that many of us would find immoral. But to them, just another way of life.



I have one fine line of morality in my life.

But first let me state that I have cheated on a lover, and I've probably cheated on tests once or twice in high school. Snuck out of the house, drank too much at a few parties, borrowed shoes and have forgotten to return them. I'm human, that's what we do. I don't find any of those out of line, but the cheating. Of which at the time, I didn't understand quite so much why cheating was so terrible for you and the others affected by it until it was long over and I sat swimming in my guilty pain.

However - my moral barrier starts and begins with my mother, whom to this day, believes her own lies.

I will never cheat others out of money to benefit myself. Lie to my children to cover any dirty tracks or secrets I brought in. I will never borrow money with the full intention of never giving it back, or ignore someone when they are in dire need. I will never turn my nose up to someone that has less money than I do, or that live lower standards because of how they are raised and I will always try to give someone a chance before throwing them to the wolves.

That's about as far as mine goes. Being true to who you are, and trying to forgive people, because you never know how bad someone has it.
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