I tend to consider that most morality is a cultural thing (as far as set ethical systems), and that respecting the system of wherever you are in the
moment is the best idea. This is conducive to effective relations and communications with others.
Besides that, i like to say
that we cannot decide the morality of an act in reality except in the moment and with the context, and even then,
there is always unknown factors that could knock our judgement off base- we can only do the best we can and be aware that we might be wrong anyway.
I'm pretty sensitive, and tend to feel repulsed to any choice that might hurt someone else in any way.
The problem can lie in mistaking what would hurt another or not (why culture comes in).
Despite this view, I still have conditioned repulsions to certain acts or behaviors that I cannot change.
Like I am ferociously monogamous, despite being in a country now that is much less condemning of infidelity.
Especially at my age, most couples are becoming swingers around us, but I cannot seem to wipe away my deepest values and ethics.
I also still have a strong tendancy to obey and respect rules and authority, though the culture here tends to have the idea that they exist FOR
breaking (which is why laws are so often set that make no sense- because it is assumed they will be purposely broken by everyone).
Heck, you can kill someone here and get out of it if you can prove you were feeling passionate at the time! We have a guy in our little village that
once chopped up his wife with an ax!
The challenging part of that is learning to respect everyone elses right to have radically different ethics- not applying your own to them, or
imagining that they feel the same as you.
I might imagine my boss would be mad if I did the opposite of what he told me to do- but that turns out to be wrong (he gets mad when I obey him to
the letter instead),
I can imagine my husband would be hurt if I slept with someone else, when in reality it might actually turn him on and make him a bit proud that his
wife is so desireable to others and sexually assertive!
This kind of difference has really made me have to own my feeligns and not project them (I
am mad when my employees don't obey, I
feel hurt if my husband slept with someone else......)
So my moral barrier, as you say, or "limits" are very personal for me, and in some cases, no longer even are based on how they would effect another! I
don't sleep with others because it would make ME uncomfortable and unhappy, not out of concern for anyone else.
This does make the issue less clear, of what ethical and moral behavior is exactly.
I can sound, in theory, very morally "loose" when I speak of relativity and all..... but anyone that has ever known me in person will say that I am
actually maybe too self controlled. That is what I hear often anyway.
Or maybe it is just the french that feel I am, in contrast. I don't know. That's basically my most repeated phrase everyday. "I don't know"
edit on 8-11-2012 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)