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Originally posted by AccessDenied
First off..this may have been better posted in the relationships forum.
Secondly, I see no problem with how you feel towards children/relationships...but a contract is a bit much.
If you find the right person, I fail to see how a legal document would be needed. It sounds more like you wish to cover your behind on the off chance you found yourself in that situation.
If you really don't want children...permanently deal with it and get a vasectomy. No worries.
Originally posted by Trustfund
If you don't want the possibility of a child then don't have sex.
Get a vasectomy, they are reversible.
Originally posted by Flavian
reply to post by Unity_99
Did you not read what i wrote?
There is a world of difference between birth control failing (accident) and deliberate deceit (sabotage of birth control). Accidents are just that and both parties are at fault. However, if deceit is involved then why should one party be made to pay? In those (rare) circumstances, it isn't an accident, it is effectively entrapment.
My post is selfish? Your post is entirely disingenuous and doesn't go anywhere near answering what i was asking.edit on 5-11-2012 by Flavian because: (no reason given)edit on 5-11-2012 by Flavian because: (no reason given)
vasectomy is not reversible ! I am against aggressive ways of preventing pregnancy for both men and women, even hormone pills are bad so what is the best way !? do you guys know any better way instead of these ?
Vasectomy Reversible Statistics
•A vasectomy reverse results in pregnancy rates of greater than 50 percent
•Sperm returns to the seminal fluid in 75 to 97 percent of patients
•Of men who have a vasectomy, between 6 and 12 percent choose to have it reversed
•Pregnancy can occur as soon as one month after a vasectomy reversible procedure but on average occur by one year
Vasectomy Reversible Risks
A vasectomy reversible, or a vasovasostomy, is a microsurgery and as with all surgeries, there are risks involved. While rare, here are some of the risks that are involved with reversing a vasectomy.
Originally posted by TKDRL
reply to post by ollncasino
From a legal standpoint, that is only true if the woman decides to keep the baby. If she decides against it, then suddenly then suddenly it's not a child, it has no rights. Just a lump of flesh to be taken out and flushed away.
Also yeah, I use rubbers, they can fail once in a while though supposedly. Never had one bust in my 30 years, so I am thinking it is a myth, or some people just do not know what they are doingedit on Mon, 05 Nov 2012 06:01:10 -0600 by TKDRL because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by TKDRL
Ok, one of the most important aspect in a relationship, and also one that seems to be the least discussed until too late, is children. Personally, it's one of the first topics I bring up when I am considering a relationship. I consider this world too corrupt to consider passing along my DNA and bloodline in. That is how I feel.
I think that before entering into a sexual relationship, it should be discussed, and a legal agreement drawn up and signed beforehand. If you do not agree on such an important topic, then you really shouldn't be having sex in the first place, and a relationship is probably not a good idea. It would save people a lot of heartache and bitterness.
An example of what such a contract could look like:
I [names here] affirm that we are entering into a serious relationship, and are planning on having sexual relations. We both agree at this time, that we do not wish to have children. Should we both agree that we decide to have children at a later time, a new contract can be drawn up, nullifying this one.
If [woman] decides upon finding out a pregnancy has occured, to keep the child, then she accepts full responsibility for said child.
It needs to be short, to the point, and written in plain english, not legalese mumbojumbo.
Good idea?edit on Mon, 05 Nov 2012 05:20:02 -0600 by TKDRL because: bad html fixed