Just finished reading through this topic. I'm probably going to ruffle some feathers by saying this, so please let me apologize in advance if this is
the case, as it is not my intent. I'm just expressing an opinion/feeling.
This topic was incredibly frustrating and disappointing. Not because of TC potentially being a hoaxer (though a skeptical person must consider that
possibility) but because of the readiness to leap outright to that conclusion, and the response to it. Please hear me out before jumping on me,
because this is what I saw when reading through this topic:
- TC comes in and shares story. Says she is attempting to share video evidence of said story. Story may or may not be true for all we know at this
- Users offer to help TC get content uploaded. One finally succeeds.
- Footage is not entirely consistent with description, although TC and the user ostensibly aiding her in uploading the content suggest there will be
more to follow that will be. Again, at this point the story may or may not be true for all we know.
- Other users immediately begin to cry hoax and scam. There is no proof of this, yet they feel comfortable adopting this conclusion.
- Said users begin attacking others who fail to see the "obvious" hoax or scam as implicitly gullible, naive, and demonstrating a desire to be first
in line to be manipulated (while in their own right trying to be first in line to prove themselves somehow less gullible and less easy to take in than
others, all while attacking them in the process... seemingly oblivious to the inherent hypocrisy in this.)
- Users begin scouring TC's post and login history to look for discrepancies that could be evidence of a deception. Some potential evidence is found,
and this is used to bolster the case for a hoax. Other explanations exist, but these are dismissed and the general consensus among some is now that
this was a hoax.
- Virtually no one on either end of the speculative spectrum seems willing to simply wait and reserve judgment until sufficient evidence to
constitute proof one way or another is established. The one or two people who are, and are just patiently trying to help TC either prove or disprove
(hang themselves) their story, are implied to be naive and gullible.
- The willingness to show compassion just in case this story is true is viewed as weak, gullible, naive, and, evidently, worthy of scorn.
- Everyone ends up arguing between the two extremes.
I intend no offense, and if I have mischaracterized anything that has happened in this topic to date, please accept my sincere apologies. That is
certainly not my intent... just as I hope the above impression was not anyone else's attempt in their posts herein. But these topics always seem to
follow this pattern, and it makes me legitimately sad, frustrated, and disappointed in people. That isn't intended to attack anyone... it's just
genuinely how I feel. Sad and disappointed. And people don't even seem aware that they're doing it. Or, if they are, they seem not to care.
Can we not, please, at least consider patiently giving people the benefit of the doubt while also remaining skeptical and rigorous? Or am I alone in
this desire? The truth will out regardless of whether we rush to judgment or hold off and wait, after all. They're not going to "get one over on us"
if we remain skeptical but also patient. On the other hand, if their story is true, and they are in a daily struggle for a basic standard of living,
they may not be willing to return or continue making an effort to share their story and any potential evidence thereof, if all they encounter is what
they might consider further dismissal and abandonment.
Just something to consider. Hope I didn't anger anyone.
TC, assuming your story is true, my heart goes out to you and I wish you and your family all the best. I don't feel particularly naive or gullible for
saying that, because if it turns out to be untrue... oh well, I was compassionate and I can live with that.
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