I am relieved to find out she is ok, good news.
It seems that now you have returned to being a nurse again. While this is absolutely noble and I wish there was an ATS prize to give, I cannot help
1)You have a 12 year old sick daughter (conducive to poltergeist activity).
2)Your sick grandmother died.
3)You must obviously be exhausted on all levels (conducive to laving an openning for something malevolent to feed of off).
I'm sure you would rather have eaten sh*& than have had to go through this.
Whatever this thing is it feeds off the pain you are all feeling. When you smoke do you talk to yourself? Do you get more depressed? Is that your
alone time? I ask because it seems that the "thing" opens up whn you light up.
If the energy there is causing the phantasm or if it is a genuine phantasm, it is important to be positive as you already know.
You have so much on your plate so to speak. If you let a sceptic tank overflow, flies will come. It is the same with the soul unless your being tested
by the Divine (I hope its real).