posted on Oct, 21 2012 @ 03:35 PM
People trust others to the extent that the "other" can hurt them.
Its along the lines of "never lend money to family" - because when they don't pay it back, it hurts.
But we freely give money to homeless people on the street, because there is no expectation. We trust they'll use it beneficially and not on
something illicit, and if they do it doesn't matter because we'll never know.
Its also along the lines of .... how to say.... people who fall for those emails promising money if you just "pay the taxes in advance". They
don't stop to think about WHY they trust this person, but for some reason they do.
Probably because when it doesn't come through, they've only lost some cash. They do not feel genuinely betrayed. They are not left with a broken
Yes, you should be able to trust the people that you love, but everytime you trust someone you open yourself up to disappointment.
I'm not saying don't trust anyone either. What I am saying is that you should weigh how much the "broken trust" will hurt - and can you handle
it? If not, best to stay guarded.
I'm pretty thick skinned myself. I trust pretty much everyone till they give me a reason not to. Some give the reason within 3 seconds, others it
takes years. As a general rule I don't put anything out there that I don't want to come back and haunt me later - online or in person.