I want to personally address each and every one of you that's for sure so here ya go~
~Astro~ And thank you for sharing your lovely meaning of sex/making love/love...very enlightening to say the least and yes I'm so looking forward to
~VzH~welcome to the board and if you're going to say "I love sex" well you may as well elaborate...because this thread isn't in all essence about
really "love it or not" it's more about MEANING to you...
~Xaos~ wow! you're only 15...*remembering those days* anyway you seem very mature for your age in some of your post...and right now, I wouldn't
advise thinking about sex, as 15 is just too young for "those" thoughts...
~Thomas~ He he! Yeah he makes us look and feel very ancient, but his day is coming..
~Gazrok~if you both want it and agree on it..then go for it!! But my thoughts about "sharing" are if you are with you're soulmate who you've
longed for sooooo long and FINALLY they enter your life...I would want only to focus every bit of energy, sexual or not, completely on them...and I'm
sorry, I'm greedy...I'm not into "sharing the wealth" per say. My opinion is this-if you love someone, mind, body and soul...then nothing or noone
should ever come between that, my thoughts alone would be aiming to please the love of my life. Like I said thou...if you both agree, then go for
it...just make sure it IS infact what you both want and will expect...I assume after you were to "do" this for the first time, there may be some
awkwardness involved, and perhaps even some guilt? And THAT is definately something to consider before-hand..
~Dragon~ I'm kinda confused why you added this to this thread
I'm sure you meant no harm, but as I stated in my opening post here, I WANT
personal feelings and meanings about this, not some time frame or book or whatever...this adds only confusion to the topic at hand-and even creates
some anger for other fellow posters(as already stated by some after your post) and to include myself...this really isn't all about a debate
here...because in a sense it can't be debated-it's too personal for that, catch my drift? So please, let's not sway away from the initial meaning
of the thread...this is very important to me..Thank you much
~HKoT~please read the above addressed to Dragon, this isn't about "debate" really it's about personal meaning and learning. So saying what you've
said about "whores" and all is only disrespecting our other fellow posters and me. If you have nothing "personal" to add, simply don't post in
this thread...makes sense to me
Now to the both of you..I'm not angry..see...
~Estragon~ I'm sorry I know nothing of the book and by the looks of it...could really careless. So I really didn't understand what you were saying
towards it..glad to see you made it to this thread none the less
~Netchicken~ thank you, thank you for your lovely thoughts and words here!! Very true indeed...sex is meant to be sacred to us...but has become
somewhat-even maybe always has been-somewhat of a curse to us all..
~Saph~ I can completely understand you're thoughts towards some of the latter posts here...And hopefully we can get it back on track as of now..noone
should make us feel guilty by when, where and who we choose to have sex with...being a "whore" is a state of mind..PERIOD, if you feel like one then
well perhaps you are one(and NO this is not geared towards you
) more geared towards the issue that was brought up with that dern book and all..k?
Noone, author or not has any right to judge someone by the sexual life-style we choose, and definately they have no right to label anyone by their
personal choices about it..like I said if you feel like you are easy then maybe you are...if you feel like you are making the right decisions then who
is anyone else to say you aren't? As we can clearly read here...sex has many different meanings to all of us, yet they kind of all join together to
complete the "true" meaning of sex/making love...and that was the "intention" behind this thread to begin with...not to turn it dirty or feeling
attacked by another because of our views..and acts
~Now to address everyone and add yet more "personal" thoughts here~
Thank you to all who have clearly maintained respect with this thread and maturity..you don't even know how good that makes me feel about each and
every one of you!! We all have hearts and feelings as shown here through our words.
I guess for me it's the reality of turning 30 and going through my second divorce that really prompted me to start this. We are not having sex
anymore since we decided on the divorce, but it is tough as we are still residing under the same roof and all, and we both have the desire for it-that
much wasn't lost on my 30th birthday heh!- But I'm not interested what so ever in sleeping with him anymore..not that it wasn't good-infact it was
and has always been, between him and I. Perhaps the ONLY reason we even lasted nearly 3 years in this "marriage"...and I'm being completely serious
when I say that. He still wants to have sex and infact asks me nearly every day now and even several times a day. I've explained to him I just
wouldn't feel right about it, as it would add too much confusion perhaps only on my part..but that he needs to respect my wishes with this and he
continues to prove that he can't by continually badgerring me about it. And I've actually become quite annoyed and justified-even, in my many
reasons for asking him for this divorce. So there ya have it..my sex life null and void for nearly two months...yet theres a man who is willing right
here but my mind says no, it would be wrong...
So the moral of the story is...even though we are sexual beings and we know it's something we can and will enjoy, it's not always the best thing to
do for our minds. And is nothing to really feel guilty about whether we choose to or not. Our decisions are based on we think is right or wrong for
the moment we are in and that moment is always subject to change..