posted on Oct, 18 2012 @ 08:36 AM
I got out of a 7 year relationship about 6 months ago with someone who I felt was my soul mate. We did everything together. Truly best friends, down
to the core. The breakup was a mutual agreement. We got to a point where we were so comfortable with one another that the excitement was gone. I no
longer found her attractive and sometimes really felt alone.
Now you will say that this person couldn't have been one of my soul mates but I beg to differ. She is one of the few people in this world who truly
know me. She is one person that I don't have to hide anything about myself around. I could talk to her about anything. Our relationship was 200%
complete and open honesty. Now that were apart, I do feel a hole inside of me and it will likely be there for a very long time. Just recently I made
the decision to stop talking to her completely (not signing on skype, returning texts etc.) because the longer I continue this, the longer it will
hurt. It doesn't hurt often but when it does, the pain is severe and sharp.
Time heals all wounds. I found that my most helpful remedy was talking about it to people. It could be friends, family, strangers on a website (not
here but another very nice and helpful, supportive relationship website...if you want a link, PM me). A pain SHARED is a pain HALVED. This truly
helped me. Distracting yourself is a bandaid to a gaping wound. Eventually that pain will surface (if the person really meant anything to you) and
you'll have to deal with it face to face.
Don't hide from your feelings and emotions. You have to deal with them, day by day. Slowly, you'll come to realize that you think about them less
and less and the pain doesn't come around as often. 7 years is a long time and I have a good ways to go before I'm healed and ready for another
Talk about it, embrace the emotion and the pain, let it run its course. This is all part of being a human being and it's NATURAL. If you have a lack
of pain and emotions after a long relationship breakup, you're not normal.
Again, remember that time heals all wounds. If you're going through hard times and emotions now, just constantly remind yourself that it'll be
alright and eventually, eventually you'll be okay. When the pain is really severe, call up your brother or sister, or other family, catch up. Go to
the website I went to and read other peoples stories about breakups (could be much worse than yours!). Vent there if you like (I did).
It will get better, I promise. Just stay strong.