posted on Oct, 16 2012 @ 08:32 AM
IMHO, the most meaningful thing(s) you can say, are simply little anecdotal narrations that tell of the uniqueness and value of the deceased. You can
tell them you had tea with him, because he was the kind of landlord a person would want to do that with. You can recount something he said or did thru
For example, when my sister died an untimely death 10 years ago, a lot of people in her small town attended the funeral. I can't remember all the
"I'm sorry's" and "I'm praying for you" statements. What stands out to me, is the poorly dressed lady standing sort of on the fringe of things,
who made her way over to me and said, "Your sister was one of the kindest people I ever met. I knew who she was, but she didn't know me at all, when
I ran out of gas in front of the gas station. I was trying to decide how to split my small amount of money between gas and food. She filled my car up
with gas. Dressed in her Sunday finest, she just did it herself and treated me like a dear friend. Ever after that, if she saw me around town, she
would smile and greet me by name, like I was somebody special. That's why I'm here."
That's what loved ones really want to know-- how the person mattered... how they will "live on" within the hearts and minds of those they came in
contact with. I'm tearing up right now thinking about that lady's words, and I can just see Linda's heart-warming smile and take-charge attitude.