I know this might be an odd request, but due to the lack of time, I can't research for hours today because of this situation, so I thought I'd reach
out to the ATS community for suggestions.
My daughter who is 26 yrs old grew up and went to school with another girl who is also 26 yrs old. For privacy reasons, let's call the girl Autumn.
Autumn's biological mother whom she was raised by is now an active prostitute and alcoholic. Autumn is married to a guy who works for minimum wage and
who is also an alcoholic. Autumn and her husband live with his parents and his mother just got out of a 90 day rehab for methamphetamine addiction.
The father is also an alcoholic. Wanted to paint a picture of where this girl came from along with her "family".
Autumn's drinking continued to escalate to a point where she was drinking vodka every waking hour. She has never worked and literally sat home
drinking daily. Sounds like a terrible person, but what is inside of her is a hurt little girl who was raised by a prostitute/alcoholic without anyone
in her life helping to advise her down a better path.
Autumn and my daughter meet for lunch maybe once a month. My daughter said she thought Autumns liver was failing as her arms were like twigs and her
stomach extended. Autumn is a small framed young lady weighing apx. 115 lbs. so any extension of her abdomen is easily noticed.
My daughter saw her deteriorate and told her she probably needed to go to the hospital to get looked at. My daughter drove her to the hospital 10 days
ago. It was determined that Autumn is in end-stage liver failure. Her only chance at surviving the next few months is with a liver transplant.
Nobody, not one person besides my daughter has went to see Autumn. My daughter talked to her husband and mother and neither will come due to visiting
hours interfering with their alcohol consumption. My daughter was asked by the nursing staff if Autumn would give Power of Attorney to my daughter so
she could help make the critical decisions.
Autumn told my daughter "I can't believe I'm dying from drinking! I'm only 26 yrs old. I feel as though this happened overnight". Autumn is despondent
and in disbelief she is dying and will die within a few weeks. The nurses and doctors highly doubt she has months to live due to complete shut down of
her liver and now kidneys are suffering with total toxicity within her body. What happens is she is hallucinating due to the toxins in her body.
Autumn is in tremendous pain. This is part of why I need to figure this out and help this poor girl.
California state law says that a liver transplant cannot happen (as most of the times, it's Medicare or state aid paying for the operation) until
successfully completing 90 days of alcohol rehabilitation. That is impossible now as Autumn's condition is critical.
Autumn is currently in the hospital, but the hospital said they are discharging her today as they cannot do anything more for her. They have not
offered one solution. I found out that Hospice might be an alternative, but is there a physical place she can go live the next few days/week of her
life without going back to a house riddled with alcohol abuse?
Her blood pressure last night was 78/52, so she is fading fast. She can't live with my daughter as she has two younger children and a husband and it
would be too much to introduce a dying friend into her home. I'm just being real. There is no where for her to go, the doctors won't even discharge
her somewhere else, like a nursing home. She will have no pain medications and she just cries in pain daily. The nurses are disgusted that a county
doctor came in and told her they cannot keep her, when the day before she was told she was going to Loma Linda Hospital. There has been no options of
end of life care provided.
How in the hell does this happen in 2012 where we can throw a dying person in the street without options? We have laws to treat various animals better
than we provide or care for a human being? I live 2 hours away and I'm seriously wondering if I shouldn't take her in myself, but I don't know who
would care for her while I'm at work. I'm so pissed off about this I could scream!
What are the options for someone dying who doesn't have health insurance? How can I stop her being discharged today, Sunday as none of the
governmental offices are open today? Is there a physical place like Hospice where she can go and be cared for and given medication while she dies?
Thank you for helping to figure out this time sensitive end-of-life problem today!
edit on 14-10-2012 by curiouswa because: (no reason