reply to post by Superhans
From your posts I see that you do not understand how much words can affect a person. Having been bullied myself at school for being 'fat' and for
being English (I moved to Scotland when I was 11), I am all for the banning. You clearly have NO idea how much a word can integrate itself in someones
psyche so deep - it is damn near impossible to get rid of. And it will affect their lives CONSTANTLY until they can manage to be rid of such hurt. I
was only 1 stone overweight and the reason for that was because I used to comfort eat because I got bullied - and it wasn't just at school.
At home my Dad mentally abused me for years. I remember two things he said to me that hurt me the most and still stay with me to this day. I was only
14 at the time. 1: "You're one cupcake away from obesity" (which is ironic seeing as I didn't even like cupcakes..) 2: "If I were you I would've
killed myself by now"..... So what gives my own Father the right to say such things to his own daughter at such an influential, tender age...?!
The kids at school used to call me fatty fatty boom boom, shrek, lard arse, wide load, fat b***h etc... And also other profanities relating to the
fact that I was from England... All this hate and bullying DESTROYED my teenagers years. I never wanted to go out. I never wanted to be at home
because of my Dad. I was seriously depressed. I had ridiculously low self-esteem, I hated myself and my body so much that I made myself incredibly
ill. Although even whilst I was going through all this my Mum, Brother and friends never knew how much I was hurting.. I hid it from everyone.
I got into many fights at school, as that was the only way I could gain any kind of respect from these bullies. Even though I was a girl the boys
still beat and hit me. So in my second to last year at school I earned the name psychobitch instead - I was happier with this name than fatty fatty
boom boom etc...
When I finally left school and about 4 months later, I was walking down to the shops with a friend, it was maybe around 9:30pm, as we were walking
down a short-cut street we see a group of around 7-8 boys hanging about under a lamp post. We both stopped in our tracks - we knew who these boys were
- the bullies from school...
I'm gonna keep this short.
Then my friend freaked out ran home, words were said between myself and David, I tried to keep walking but they ran in front of me and stopped me.
They beat me senseless, then took off all my clothes apart from my bra and knickers, tied me to a lamp post and wrote on my stomach in permanent
marker - fat english slag..... and left me.
So I dont know about you Superhans, but those bullies should have been in juvenile detention a long time ago..!!
Do you not see how things can escalate...?! Just over calling someone fat - even when I was only 1 stone over weight. And its not like they themselves
were the thinnest branches on the tree...
If you call someone fat in a malicious way, then yes it is a crime. If you call someone black in a malicious way, yes it is a crime. If you call
someone a retard in a malicious way, yes it is a crime too...
So what exactly is the difference between calling someone fat in a malicious way and calling someone black in a malicious way...????
They are words that if said maliciously, cause deep deep deep hurt. And it can and DOES affect the lives of many people world wide. Including myself,
and a rather big handful of friends I know. My friend Magdalena got called fat at school even though she was tiny, she now has severe anorexia and
bulimia and has alienated herself from all her friends and family.
All because a bully called her fat....
Even to this day I still have confidence problems. It has stopped me going to certain job interviews. It nearly stopped me from meeting the first love
of my life. Those horrid words that are hurled at you with such force and hate, rip through you like a bullet covered in rock salt. Words are
dangerous. And if used in the wrong manner can cause great pain and suffering.
It is abuse. Period.
Banning the word 'fatty' is an insidious attempt at politically correct thought control
Its not thought control. Its just making people THINK before they SPEAK.
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