Originally posted by Sly1one
Bullying isn't the issue...lack of support from friends and family is apparently the bigger issue..."I have no one"..."I need someone"??? where
are the loving parents? family? siblings? zero friends?
I'll say again the key to "defeating bullies" is to ignore them...and focus on the victim...instead of outlawing words and forcing kids to be nice
and making political correctness a law...
we should be focusing on the victims and praising them building them up and showing them that they are valued, appreciated, and accepted...the people
who love them and care for them seem to be outnumbered by "bullies" in these cases and that is truly sad...not that people would bully her....but
that there apparently aren't any other people in her life willing to build her up and support her...
THAT is where the focus needs to be...befriend someone who is being bullied...its much more effective than giving bullies any sort of attention at
I am sorry to say that I believe you are very wrong on this.
I am now 40 years old, and bullying has not changed one bit in all these years. Kids are cruel. What has changed in all these years is that people
think it is best to ignore your bullies and they will go away. It does not work. It has never worked.
I was bullied for along time when I was a kid, and eventually it did stop when I finally had enough and I stood up for myself. I was made fun of,
called names, beat up almost daily. I never fought back- I just took it. Tried to ignore it. Ran away. Once I ran away from 3 guys who were chasing
me, as I looked back to see where they were I clotheslined myself with a tree branch and got knocked out cold. No one helped me. I woke up eventually,
alone and in the cold. Walked home and decided that enough was enough.
What I did from there would get any kid arrested today, but I went to school and made a list of every kid who picked on me, made fun of me, or beat me
up. I started at the top of my "hit list" and jumped every single person on that list. I caught them in stairwells, hallways, outside after school,
in between classes, it didn't matter. I hunted you down, and I punched you in the face. I did not win every fight, but I didn't have to. I got
detention, suspended, still I would never tell why I was doing what I was doing. Just like I never told on my bullies.
By the time I reached number 4 on my list of names, people stopped picking on me, but I did not stop until I went through my whole list. I was in the
7th grade at the time, and from that point on I was never bullied again.
There is a fine line between fear and respect, and sometimes it doesn't matter which.
Sorry but you can not ignore a bully away. It didnt work for me. Only one thing worked.... fighting back. Standing up for myself.. and I would do it
all again in a heartbeat if I had to because I learned much about myself through it all. I also earned some confidence and learned to not be afraid.