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I Think I Have Done It, I Think I Have Beat My Gambling Addiction

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posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:27 PM
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My life in the past 2 years has been absolutely consumed by a mindless Gambling Addiction, where I have lost virtually everything I have ever owned. I lost my house, I lost my wife, I lost my children, I lost every worldly possesion I have, I swamped myself in debt that is uncontrollable and I lost my own self respect.

But after 2 long years I believe I have beaten it
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First of all I started Gambling smaller and smaller amounts and now I have stopped all together. I got no help from the so called organisations set up by government/bookmakers nor did I get any help from my medical practicioners. I did this myself, for my family and it was difficult but yay I have beaten it.

I am now seeing my wife and children again and are starting to rebuild our relationship and I am slowly getting myself back into a financial control position.

It was difficult and it nearly took my life, I have been lower than anyone can imagine. So to all those out there who suffer from Gambling, please believe me you can do it, you can stop.




posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:30 PM
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Well done sir you got balls to admit you had a problem and you got balls to be
man enough to deal with that problem..


Treat the wife to a massage and and do something with the kids.

respect denver22



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:31 PM
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The only reason people have a hard time quitting the gamble game, is because they really don't want to. Just like people have a hard time quitting the bottle. The stuff in their head and their heart is too terrible for them to face alone, so they need Jim Beam and Jack Daniel to stand by them. Because remember, everyone's immortal when they've had their fill! Just ask the rednecks! Oh...wait..


Gamblers, if you truly want to stop, you can. You might have trouble, but nothing really worth doing is easy. If it was easy, you didn't do it right. I've seen people quit their addictions cold turkey - the only reason you can't is you don't want to, or you think you can't. When you believe, anything is possible.

Listen to Coach Nike and JUST DO IT. Quitting, I mean. Not the gambling.

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posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:31 PM
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Can you describe the process or techniques you used to stop?



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:36 PM
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I bet you, you haven't.




posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:42 PM
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Originally posted by michael1983l


I am now seeing my wife and children again and are starting to rebuild our relationship and I am slowly getting myself back into a financial control position.

It was difficult and it nearly took my life, I have been lower than anyone can imagine


Remember it's rigged from the start just watch casino:

In the end they get it all!!www.youtube.com...
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posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:44 PM
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reply to post by boncho
 


LOL one more game wouldnt hurt


Next time gamble with fake money



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:45 PM
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Yes I can.

First of all you have to change how you think about what will happen if you make a bet. A Gambler like me would only think of what I could win rather than what I could lose. This is the first mindset you have to change.

Secondly a big problem is thinking, ok I will go and only bet £20, you go in and lose your £20 but you then think I will win it back and go on to gamble more money that you didn't plan to at the start and you lose big sums "chasing" the money you already lost. The only way to beat this is to know in your mind to not Gamble at all.

Thirdly is to get a reality grip on what money is worth. Money became almost worthless to me as I gambled more and more. I started to convince my mind to think of £20 as 20 loaves of bread or a weeks worth of fuel for work, rather than "oh its just 20 quid"

Fouth, you have to want to give up. I don't think I always wanted to give up even when my life was in such a mess so much was the craving for the adreniline rush. You need to want to give up and I did this by making a deal with a loved one, a deal that I meant I lost them forever if I carried on. This made me want to give up.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:47 PM
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Here's an interesting thought. Did you know gambling addiction isn't from the high of winning, but it's the down from losing? I watched a documentary about that a few years ago.

congrats!



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:49 PM
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I did not know that, but now you say it that does make sense. I think its all to do with an addiction to extreme emotions and possibly adreniline too.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:54 PM
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LOL Boncho. That was my first reaction too. "Wanna bet?"

Addiction is addiction.
BAD habits are BAD habits.
Addiction is the difference from a bad choice of lifestyle more then once,to repeat bad choice, to "I don't care" choice, to addiction, regardless of who it hurts including yourself on many different levels emotional and financially and with relationships in business and family.

Everyone hits bottom at different levels of bad choices.
" Moderation" is a great line until you lose control.

Good for you OP.


Who do you like in the 5th race? I kid I kid. I have no clue how to bet a horse.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 07:55 PM
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20 bucks says you will be gambling before the end of this thread.



Congrats. the hardest thing to do is to deny yourself the instant gratification instinct. Personally, I never had that issue with gambling..probably because I am a horrible gambler so don't have enough positive experiences to make it addictive. heh.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 08:00 PM
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Originally posted by boncho
I bet you, you haven't.



2 to one odds Boncho?


Good to see ya again!

For the OP...Congrats and stay with it.


Peace



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 08:04 PM
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Originally posted by michael1983l

Secondly a big problem is thinking, ok I will go and only bet £20, you go in and lose your £20 but you then think I will win it back and go on to gamble more money that you didn't plan to at the start and you lose big sums "chasing" the money you already lost.


It's called chasing a lost cause as you will allways come second to the bookies
Use the money you would of gambled and take the wife out for a candle lit dinner maybe
by her some lingerie maybe buy her a new dress even if she has loads of them it will put
a sparkle back in her eye..New shoes perhaps.

I wish you all the best find a hobby that take your mind off any future temptations..



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 08:09 PM
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As with any addiction, the first thing you have to do is admit you have a problem. The second thing is to change your thinking, to realize the damage the addiction is doing to your life, and that you must go through the discomfort of stopping the habit in order to change your life for the better. The third thing is to never, ever go back to where you were before.

The last, and most important thing, is replace the void the addiction was filling with something more wholesome, healthy, and worthwhile.

Congratulations on beating your addiction. There is no shame in being an ex-addict.

Star and flag for being honest and showing that it can be done, from one ex-addict to another.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 08:17 PM
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I bet you you will gamble again.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 08:20 PM
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I'm sorry I do not bet anymore so cannot take you up on that offer.



posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 08:34 PM
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Good job OP. Never been much of a gambler and I can see how one could become addicted. Hopefully you can find some light in this video.




posted on Oct, 11 2012 @ 10:01 PM
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It's wonderful that you have beat this! Family is far more important and rewarding.


I used to work with a lady that was addicted to gambling. She would think nothing of spending like a hundred bucks on scratch tickets. She would get so excited when she won 50.00 bucks. We'd tell here, Connie, you spent 100.00 and won 50.00, you're in the hole 50 bucks! Then she would put most of it back into tickets. She never did come out ahead.



posted on Oct, 15 2012 @ 09:43 AM
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Congratulations OP
The trick now mate is to never go back.

I used to gamble myself not too long ago, thankfully even though I may have been addicted at one stage, I was never a compulsive gambler- if I was following a method, I would stick to it- so if there was only ever one bet for the day, then I had discipline to stick with just that, win or lose. Whereas I know of gamblers who would literally get their paycheck and bet it all in one night on the roulette or something. Awful thing.

Out of interest, what were you gambling on?





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