reply to post by Unity_99
Having above addressed the issues that you considered minor things. I would like to emphasize that those issues that you considered minor issues were
not the only issues that were raised regarding this situation.
I would like to reiterate that an adoptive parent's place in their child's life is of no lesser value than the biological parent's. In the eyes of
the law they are equally the child's parents and are considered until proven otherwise to be equally worthy as parents of the child should the
parents divorce and custody matters were to arise. Giving physical birth to a child does not magically and automatically ensure that that same person
will be filled to the depths of their sole, so far above and beyond the ability of any other human on earth to even comprehend, with love, for the
child they brought into the world. Nor is an adoptive parent somehow less capable of experiencing the depths of love for their adopted child that a
biological parent might feel.
Now aside from the "minor things" you took issue with, once the couple decided to split up they scheduled a therapy session to discuss how to handle
the breakup, which considering a child was involved would have been a positive action that could have lessened the impact on the child, except that
when Scollar arrived for the therapy session she received a call from Altman stating she was taking the child clear across the country from New York
to California with no mention of a return trip.
In a traditional marriage, even if the parent in Scollars shoes were an adoptive parent of the child being taken across the country, the act of the
biological parent "or the one in Altman's shoes" would be sufficient to label her a kidnapper in the eyes of the law as no custody ruling had been
reached at this point, so her sudden flight to California would serve to deprive the child's other parent of contact with their child. (The majority
of kidnappings are of this nature, a couple divorces and one parent decides to take the child/children and run)
Even worse than that though, Altman (the biological mother) accused Scollar of being a drunk and a child abuser, her claims led Child Services to
investigate her claims, an investigation which included performing a gynecological examination
6 year old girl
with Altman's (the biological mother's) consent despite her later testimony that she “herself did
not believe the child had been sexually abused,”
And as quoted in my previous post
The evidence shows that the child was traumatized by the ACS experience and yet Respondent-Altman said she believed the child
had a ‘ball or ‘blast’ at the examination,” the judge wrote.
In my opinion, I don't care if Altman is her biological mother, I wouldn't even care at this point if she went through 72 hours of hard labor only
to end up having to undergo a c-section in the process of becoming the child's biological mother. That does not in any way justify her viciously
making false allegations that were so serious that they led to Child Services investigating and with HER consent putting a 6 year old child through a
gynecological examination, despite later testifying that she did not believe the child was sexually abused. And if that all weren't horrible enough
Altman (the biological mother) went on to state that she believed her child a a ball or blast (meaning a great partying type time) at the
To use your own words
Originally posted by Unity_99 That is psychotic. .
Biology does not make a parent, it's what comes after the biology that creates the parent. Many children have been harmed or abandoned by their
biological parents, and many have been healed by parents who saw them, loved them and adopted them.
My parents divorced when I was 4 months old. My mother afterwards ended up dating a man who loved me as his own, they married when I was 3 and when I
was 5 he gave up the car of his dreams a blue Cadillac Convertible that he worked so hard and saved for....to adopt me. He and mom gave me two
younger sisters, but you know what, even though he now was the biological father of 2 beautiful girls that came from him...I remained his baby, his
little doll, his pride and joy,.....all of my life and the rest of his.