Originally posted by thehoneycomb
reply to post by PurpleChiten
No, you said you don't understand my argument, which is fine. You dont need to understand, but if you tried maybe you would. Personal attacks are not
That was my personal experience with this issue, I am so sorry that I put it on this forum and it is not good enough for you.
Anyways, a non-custodial parent who was married recently to another woman, because it just came legal in the state of NY, so then they get divorced
and for whatever reason the other woman takes her to court and goes and gets custody of a child that is not biologically related to her. From what we
know, neither party was abusive in any way to the child nor was it proved that the child was neglected or in any type of danger or threat. The judge
awards the non custodial parent.
Gay marriage still not an issue?
tenth and I didnt agree at first and still probably dont agree on alot of it, but we worked through it.
How about discussing this without the personal attacks?
It is one thing to have an innocent child stripped away from you, it is another to be ridiculed by complete strangers for sharing my experience.
The only way to support what you have just said would be if you were one of the gay women, specifically the biological mother, who were in court? Is
that the case? If not, then what you have just said holds no water.
The ruling of a judge on a case between two women over the custody of their child, custody they both had for whatever reasons, has no bearing on your
own battle with your girl friend and the custody of the biological child you share. If you wanted to address your own situation, you would have
presented a story that at least had some similarity to yours. You switched to your own experience after you saw that your attempt at getting people to
throw hatred toward a lesbian couple in a custody situation due to their orientation didn't pan out.
Either this is about the lesbian couple or you need to make another thread concerning your experience because they have nothing in common.
The lesbians were legally married and shared custody. When they legally divorced, custody was decided by the judge. You were not legally married and
gave a short quip about your girl friend getting custody of the child that you were both biological parents of that have nothing to do with the OP or
Now, let's return to the topic. How does the relationship status of these two women affect you? How does the judge's decision affect the child
involved? Was it for the good of the child or was it to satisfy one party over another? Chances are, he/she weighed all the evidence and made a
judgement. It's his/her job to do this. He/she has a great deal of experience in these issues (child custody) or he/she would not be in that position.
You have shown no authority in the area, yet you wish to attack his/her authority. He/she was educated, worked in the field, passed the bar, is
authorized to be a judge and is the authority in this case.
What exactly is it you are trying to show other than display your hatred for people who are homosexual and trying to discredit gay marriage due to
your own opposition to it and nothing more?
So NO, gay marriage isn't an issue. No more than two people having a child out of wedlock is if we want to relate it to your situation.
So far you have:
Attacked gay marriage on the basis of the children, yet you had a child out of wedlock that it's mother has primary custody of and you get visitation
Attacked gay marriage on the basis that it demeans marriage, yet you had a child out of wedlock with your girlfriend.
Attacked gay marriage as not being good for the child because they get divorced and one gets primary custody, yet you had a child out of wedlock and
don't live together, didn't marry and have separate custody rights.
Attacked me personally when you didn't like statements that were on topic and started slinging hatred and insults at me, then, when I stood up for
myself, you escalated and then tried to make it seem I was the one attacking instead of the one defending myself and trying to get you back on
Your score isn't very good here. Are you going to return to the topic and discuss it or continue to try to derail it?
edit on 4-10-2012 by PurpleChiten because: (no reason given)