Originally posted by Malcher
Even in that case it is best to be honest. If you lie and they find out then they will say "i thought you said you like this guy...thats not what we heard".
I think being obese should be against the law, it is a very unbecoming trait. It shows a complete lack of self control.
It is a proven fact if your fat, and eat less, you will lose weight, reguardless of any other factor. Only jenny craig and others with somthing to sell will tell you that it doesn't work. Ever seen a fat POW? How about a fat concentration camp prisoner? Of course not, they stopped eating and lost a lot of weight. It is full proof, you can't die of starvation while being fat, it is impossible.
I disagree with your statement, yes you do need to hear the ugly truth, sorry if your don't like it, but that is the point of good advice, it is what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. If it is only the feel good no hurt feelings advice you want, ok then here you go.
I added, smoking and being an a-hole intentionally, as I am both, and realise it is both disgusting and worthless, the difference is I don't make excuses for either, or try to say there is nothing wrong with it, when there is obviously a lot wrong with both. I am however a weak and flawed human,
Originally posted by bastet11
You know what? I needed this right now. It really hit home, and has actually made me see my situation for what it is.
I am almost the size of the news anchor, for what it matters. I am a nice woman. I deal honestly, I am a good wife. I am loyal. I am a very loving and dedicated mother. I homeschool my son for hours each day. I do not eat junk. I don't stuff my face. I don't order 2 Big Macs, a large fry and a diet coke and then wonder why I am big.
I eat far fewer calories then is recommended. I am very active, taking walks every day, and I also do yoga and aerobics. All of my food is organic. I forbid sodas, HFCS and junk food in the house. When my husband comes home from work, the house is spic-n-span, the laundry is washed, folded and ironed, and a hot healthy dinner is ready, exactly at 6pm when he walks in the door. Then I spend the next few hours cleaning up, bathing the kid, getting him to bed, etc.
I am just now discovering after years of trying to lose weight that I have a thyroid issue that is trapping me at this size and am finally considering surgical intervention.
I am bullied every single day over my weight. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
Not by my family. Not by my friends. Not be random strangers on the street. Not by neighbors.
But my husband, who sees fit to call me fat, huge, elephant, etc. EVERY DAY. In front of our son. The bullying is very destructive. Imagine that you had a handicap that you had little control over, and despite your best efforts, you still had to struggle with it daily. Now imagine the person that should love you the most making fun of that handicap every day, DEFINING your very existence based on only one small part of your entire makeup. It does not matter that I am a good woman, a good mom, a chef, a maid, a personal shopper, a teacher, etc. All that matters is that I AM FAT.
I will be talking about matters that have nothing to do with me or my appearance..and he will find a reason to incorporate FAT into the conversation.
My son has taken to yelling at his father to stop calling me names. My biggest fear is not so much how badly it hurts me, but the damage it is doing to our son to witness the bullying. Will he think it is okay to judge people solely on their outer shell, when so much more could be inside? I shudder to think.
I used to be of the mind that "sticks and stones break my bones, but words will never hurt me." That is entirely untrue, and I have been in two abusive relationships in my life. The first one was mainly physical abuse. This one is emotional. I can tell you with certainty that the emotional abuse is far worse in this case. The other one, I was able to see the abuse for what it was..this one weeded under my psyche and has broken it down into pieces before I even realized what was happening.
I implore you all, to try and consider what you are saying BEFORE you say it. I could not live with myself knowing that I was causing severe pain to another person simply by my words. Stop judging people based on their appearance. Character matters FAR more than anything else.
The commonly held causes of obesity-overeating and inactivity-do not explain the current obesity epidemic. There is evidence of a general decrease in food consumption by humans and a significant decline in their overall levels of physical activity. There is also more evidence to indicate that the body's natural weight-control mechanisms are not functioning properly in obesity. Because the obesity epidemic occurred relatively quickly, it has been suggested that environmental causes instead of genetic factors maybe largely responsible.
The number of obese people worldwide has escalated recently, revealing a complex picture of significant variations among nations and different profiles among adults and children, regions, and occupations. The commonly held causes of obesity-overeating and inactivity-do not explain the current obesity epidemic. There is evidence of a general decrease in food consumption by humans and a significant decline in their overall levels of physical activity. There is also more evidence to indicate that the body's natural weight-control mechanisms are not functioning properly in obesity. Because the obesity epidemic occurred relatively quickly, it has been suggested that environmental causes instead of genetic factors maybe largely responsible. What has, up to now, been overlooked is that the earth's environment has changed significantly during the last few decades because of the exponential production and usage of synthetic organic and inorganic chemicals. Many of these chemicals are better known for causing weight loss at high levels of exposure but much lower concentrations of these same chemicals have powerful weight-promoting actions. This property has already been widely exploited commercially to produce growth hormones that fatten livestock and pharmaceuticals that induce weight gain in grossly underweight patients. This paper presents a hypothesis that the current level of human exposure to these chemicals may have damaged many of the body's natural weight-control mechanisms. Furthermore, it is posited here that these effects, together with a wide range of additional, possibly synergistic, factors may play a significant role in the worldwide obesity epidemic.