reply to post by jiggerj
Originally posted by jiggerj
If a concerned parent put her child on a diet, would any child say, "Why should I go on a diet? Just look at the woman on the news!"
If my child said that, I would remind her that the news lady is a free person, and can decide how she wants to live her life. But we know it's
healthy to maintain our weight and eat good food so that's what we're going to do.
I wouldn't say that the letter was meant to be bullying. If it was, it would have been more like, "You fat hog! You're an embarrassment" or
something like that. It was quite cordial. But HURTFUL, nonetheless. No one wants to have their flaws noticed and pointed out by a COMPLETE STRANGER!
My position is that fat people KNOW they're fat. 99% of them are embarrassed about it. Most hate it, but can't figure out what to do about it.
Everyone has hangups and emotional issues. But fat people's are the only ones that show physically at first glance. If you're insecure, have ADHD,
obsessive/compulsive disorder, are addicted to cigarettes, drugs or are an alcoholic, people can't tell that by looking at you. So, you can walk down
the street and no one knows your issues. You can hide your flaws from strangers.
But if you have an addiction to food and a bad relationship with food, it shows. Everywhere you go. Everybody knows. When you walk into a room,
everyone knows immediately that you're fat. And there are so many misconceptions about fat people that are assumed... He's lazy, no self-control,
she doesn't care about herself, he's a slob, whatever. They're all associated with being fat, so the instant judgment, no matter where you go, is
that you're a fat, lazy slob who doesn't give a crap.
So bringing up someone's obesity in this way - not knowing the newscaster at all
- is just an amazingly insensitive and crude thing to do.
Talk about an unsolicited opinion! The email writer has a lot of balls.
It would be one thing if I was concerned for my best friend and I had a heart-to-heart with her. But this is a complete stranger!
I didn't even address the issue of young girls trying to be thin as a rail because of what they see on TV. This woman being on TV tells the young
chunky girl that the bullies at school who are teasing her all the time are wrong. It tells them that they ARE worth something and DO have a
contribution to make.
I don't know if that made it any clearer for you, but it's my position. And I speak from experience. I recently lost 70 lbs.