reply to post by Biliverdin
i both understand and knew that someone would respond like this. and i am sorry that your husbands treat you that way. nor am i saying it's easy like
'easy'. but i mean it was simpler, less complicated. and there are some things that not all women are knowledgeable about.
simple things a woman must also do as a housewife:
- u can slack off but make sure to make urself presentable every now and again. keeping the old bat of the house look is hardly welcoming after some
time and u got to keep a man both interested and entertained.
- keep the house clean and spend a week or 2 at your mother's every year. so the family will miss you and appreciate what u do when it's temporarily
gone. tho shortlived as they will eventually go back to their apathetic nature about everything u do. that's human's for ya what can you do?
- cook with love
- choose fun and positivity over emotional outbursts and constant nagging or complaining. such things are what creates hell on earth for a man
condemned to live such a life in a box with such a person.
- do everything with love and do not complain
- stay attractive. especially if u have a sexually inclined husband. u must keep urself attractive for him. even if he is out of shape.
all these things a woman should do silently and be the silent rod of the family. providing it its backbone and the man of the house the confidence and
security to be a better husband. it is not a tireless or relentless act. it should be a natural act because these things should be done.
u can construct that build it yourself cupboard set and include all the screws.. or u can leave out a few because u dont think them important to the
structure. later on after the mistakes u can realize what purpose those screws had.
there's actually a section of the bible that teaches all these things. it is an insight into the psychology of humans. and understanding this
psychology gives u a great advantage in understanding what drives the actions of the average human mind.
e.g. - do not visit your neighbour's house too often. even bringing gifts. the neighbour will grow weary of you.
paraphrased.. but what it's saying is.. ppl like their alone time where things can be just the way they are accustomed to. if they are deprived of
that for too long they will start to get irritable.
even the koran has good guidance as does hindu manuscripts. they teach truth.. ways to avoid your husband being jealous, to keep him interested,
attracted to you etc. for some the requirements may seem like too much.. but if you want your marriage to work then it is the best way. dont take away
a man's manhood. allow him to be a man. the ferocious tiger u loved when u first met. the arrogant clown everyone else thought he was etc. his strong
willed and confident persona is what attracted u to him.
just as a woman is attracted to a confident and stable man. a man is attracted to a woman that does his laundry. ill even give u a secret. the
majority of men i think are actually turned on by seeing their wives (in a loving relationship) doing chores like washing their laundry and cooking
etc. this is why many men end up sleeping with the maid. especially if the mother has not much tiime for the kids and the maid is doing the
babysitting and basically raising the kids the majority of time.
there are things required on boths sides to keep a marriage going.. it's not impossible to have a beautiful marriage till death do u part. what is
required is devotion to the pillars you are assigned. teamwork. if im the best hitter and your the best catcher then i will bat and you will hold a
field position. but just because u are assigned a position doesnt mean that you should seek to assign urself whatever position u want.. most often
than not in such a rebellious effort.. the opposite of what u were assigned. so they assigned u field and u decide to rebel and assign urself bat.
there can only be one batter at any point in time. so curiousity kills the cat because it's ruining the entire game.
edit on 30-9-2012 by 0mage
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