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Originally posted by nerbot
Originally posted by Revolution9
These poor kids of non-working single mothers atleast have their mothers there for them, to make some kind of human adult in the future.
A human adult who grows up in a world of entitlement, children with little or no responsibility who know how to use the system to get a free life and think they cannot get a job because it involves work.
You have put forward only one side of the story, a side that ignores the importance of a strong father figure in a household and doesn't take into account what these single parent mothers must face when their children leave home, the benefits stop and they have no choice but to face the real world....which is why they have multiple fathers for their children and keep squeezing them out until nobody is drunk enough to say yes any more.
We are talking about a large amount of people who's natural behaviour is to lie their way through life in so many ways and delude themselves they can't do what is needed to contribute to society to make themselves part of the solution rather than the problem.
Pregnancy should come with responsibility, not a cheque, and children should have a productive homelife that sets an example so the world is not filled with couch potatoes and parasites thumbing themselves into oblivion on gadgets paid for by those who do the hard work.
I agree with your thread title, but the age of 'entitlement' is completely negative for society and stable family units become rarer. So many accidents waiting to happen.
Originally posted by Sinny
reply to post by Revolution9
Thanks for trying to inderstand, but I actually "their" situations rather well, as 6 of my closest girlfriends from school have gone down the avenue of having children immediately after. Only one of those had a messed up background, and lack of education. The rest, simply couldn't be arsed to make an effort.
I my self have been tackling homlessness, since 14, and you might as well class me as an orphan.
So, my sympathy isn't that hard to come across. And trust me, they get more that they need to survive, I see a few of them on a weekly basis, they want for NOTHING.
Originally posted by Sinny
The rest, simply couldn't be arsed to make an effort.
Raising children requires effort, and one way or another they will be learning that lesson. It is not always easy to see someone suffering the consequences of a bad choice, but you can hope that they realise sometime along the way that there is no such thing as a easy ride.
Taxation is irrevelent, let's face it, if it wasn't going to them, it would be going on something even less worthwhile.
Originally posted by 74Templar
The problem with that is how many kids are getting neglected because their parents see them as nothing more than a source of income and an excuse not to work?
Originally posted by 74Templar
Sure it takes some effort to raise a kid regardless of the reasons behind it, but I see a lot of these type of people that have dirty and unkempt kids, and they usually spend much of their time screaming and swearing at them, while they spend much of their time spending their checks on smokes, booze and walking around with a new iPhone.
Originally posted by 74Templar
And before anyone says I'm stereotyping, my ex is exactly like that.
Originally posted by 74Templar
Now that you can't argue with. The government certainly knows how to waste money on fivolous things. To me, if the money was spent on education for these people, so they can get the skills to rejoin the workforce, and helping with child care etc, while companies are a little more lenient towards parents, then it wouldn't be money wasted, it would be a wiser investment.
Originally posted by 0mage
reply to post by Biliverdin
i both understand and knew that someone would respond like this. and i am sorry that your husbands treat you that way. nor am i saying it's easy like 'easy'. but i mean it was simpler, less complicated. and there are some things that not all women are knowledgeable about.
Originally posted by 0mage
simple things a woman must also do as a housewife:
Originally posted by Revolution9
reply to post by nerbot
I am sure income tax is subsidizing in some part the transport network.
But may be you know the budget better than I and what goes where.
I am just sticking up for single mothers (and dads, too) who want to devote their attention full time to their children!
Originally posted by Biliverdin
reply to post by 0mage
Haha...I never said I like multiple partners, just that the only type of marriage I would probably consider was polyandry. I currently do not have any partner, nor any immediate prospects of having one. Which is fine, I have enough on my plate to keep me out of mischief.
I have a child and well know the commitment required to raise children. Which is why I stuck with one, what I could afford, both financially and in the time required in devotion to my child's upbringing. Neither I, nor my child, want for anything, and while my relationship with his father failed, I have worked hard to ensure that he is not excluded from his son's upbringing despite the difficulties that entailed. I have experienced both staying at home, as a full time mother, and being the bread winner, while his father stayed home. I now am fortunate enough to have employment that allows me the freedom to have the best of both worlds. This further enables me not to require my son's father to have to contribute to his child's maintenance, and instead, he can spend the money directly on his son when they get to spend time with each other.
We all have to work to do the best with the hand that is dealt to us, enjoy what we have, and leave off with the need to criticise and judge others. We all make mistakes, but it is how we carry on forward from that that matters.
edit on 30-9-2012 by Biliverdin because: (no reason given)