Originally posted by nothingwrong
Originally posted by Wolf321
reply to post by nothingwrong
I understand the premise of doing what you love, it is just unrealistic. The world I describe is not my conception of it, it is reality. The nature of
reality is there is only one. Perspective can change from person to person but reality remains constant. Example: A person can die. One relative may
view their passing as moving on to another realm. Another may simply see it as an end of a life. Either way, the person is simply dead.
I hope that my children will find work doing something they love, but I don't tell them that it is the more likely outcome. I brace them for the fact
that work is work, the best you can hope for in life is finding your skills and talents and putting those to work to provide for your necessities.
This idea that simply doing what you want is enough is dangerous. It is just like when I hear someone tell a person who is interested in opening a
business to do or sell what they are interested in. That is just about the worst advice you can give someone who is considering a business. Rule no.1
is there has to be a market. If I want to sell handmade pink bunny pencil toppers, without a market, I will lose a lot of money, time and be
heartbroken with failure.
The advice shouldn't be do something that makes you happy. It should be do something useful.
Well we will have to agree to disagree. For me the real danger is trying to confirm to a broken system. "It is no measure of health to be well
adjusted to a profoundly sick society"
You can teach your children to be 'realistic' or you can teach them to be real. prepare them for a life of toil, being a wage slave for 2 weeks
holiday a year somewhere in the sun, if they are lucky. Or teach them to follow theeir hopes and their dreams, concentrating on what they love, so
that they can find fulfillment. How much money you have is not a measure of success. How much love you have is far more important.
Oh Man, I am going along post by post and starring them as I go because I agree with both sides of this debate!! I really, really wish I personally
was of the "do what you love" set. My heart and soul says that is how it should be, and that everything would all fall together.
On the other hand, I am currently paying for college for my son, and as soon as that obligation is finished, I need to save as much as I possily can
for retirement, as I started saving very late due to several failed marriages that included a ton of debt. I count myself very lucky that I no longer
have any credit card debt, but I still have a car payment and a mortgage.
I actually do love what I do, although it certainly isn't what I thought I would do when I first started college back in the eighties as a Theater
major. However, I do not enjoy the extremely high stress my career currently puts on me, with 24 hour on-call duty every two weeks. I justify the
stress with the fact that, outside of that on-call, my job is very interesting, and that I am back on track to be able to retire in another 13-15
years. That's if my body can take that kind of stress for 13-15 years. I have better odds than many! At least a possible retirement is on the
I look at my parents and their siblings' generation, and I get a bit upset on behalf of my own generation. My parents/aunts/uncles are now retired,
and have benefits locked in, that my generation will not likely see. Meanwhile, at the same time we are paying for the Baby Boomers, we are also
paying exhorbitant prices for our children's generation, Gen Z or whatever they are calling them, to attend college.
Meanwhile, our government is promising to suck away all the benefits my generation has thought we have been paying into during our entire working
lives (for me, that is since I was 15 years old, currently 44), and we don't have much confidence in what we can expect. I honestly feel like we got
our candles burned at both ends. When I talk to my peers, we feel like we are the generation that has paid for everybody.
I am hopeful that my kids will pick up and carry on. I am hopeful that they will be able to do it while also living their dreams. I have encouraged
them to pursue their interests, and that seems to be happening, but the proof will be in the pudding, when they actually graduate and we see if they
get paying jobs.
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