posted on Sep, 27 2012 @ 12:31 PM
I've had anger issues my whole life, and still do, but I've turned a corner because I've finally figured out what I'm really angry about. It's
not because of my father, or my mother, or something that happened to me in my childhood, or any of the typical kinds of boilerplate analysis you'll
get from a shrink @ $80 an hour.
You can do this all on your own. You'll have to, because this is between you...and you.
Anger issues are very much a "guy" thing, the same way abandonment issues are a "gal" thing. The two are not unrelated.
Why are men so angry? Not just about "stuff," but angry on a deep down almost primordial level? It's an anger that's always there, just waiting
for an excuse to flare up and make itself known, almost always out of proportion to whatever the trigger was, and almost always misdirected.
We are angry because somewhere deep down in our DNA we know we're free, natural-born men meant to wander and hunt and gather and fish and laugh and
fvck and play and run for our lives and fight if we have to, but we'd rather hunt and laugh and fvck and play and sleep with the sun and stars in our
faces, and that's how we lived for 99 percent of our existence as "modern" humans. We lived and roamed and wandered and fvcked and played and died
And then something happened. The Agricultural Revolution, 10,000 years ago, wooed us out of the forests and hills. Sumer, the "first"
civilization, which is debatable, 7,500 years ago, introducing concepts of law, commerce, conquest, and pertinent to "anger" issues, slavery.
Entire races have "anger" issues. Blacks have a lot of reasons to be angry, and although it's not discussed much anymore, it boils down to the
slavery issue. Maybe some us think blacks should get over it and move on, but how many of us would say that their "anger" issues aren't justified?
What are they "angry" about. They're angry because their ancestors were violently kidnapped and separated not just from their families, but from
their natural environment, and sold into slavery. Which, short of being tortured to death, has to be the worst thing that could happen to someone.
But even "civilized" blacks, like civilized whites, don't take the next step and make the "DNA" connection between anger issues and the loss of
the natural world and the freedom to wander at will, and our current state of abject (debt) slavery.
Our prisons, mental institutions and mean streets are full of men who "still remember," refuse to conform, act out their anger, and can't be
domesticated. Others "still remember," but keep their anger more or less under control.
We're angry because somewhere inside of us we know we're not free anymore. We're angry because once we were free, and now we're slaves; to
careers and the taste of ashes in our mouths, to jobs we hate, and to the phony formality and hypocrisy of so-called "civilization."
In other words, we're "angry" because we're natural-born free men, living like fvcking hamsters.
Once I figured that out, all the other anger issues, like the ones you mentioned, didn't seem all that important. After a while they just sort of
faded away. And now I'm "smart" enough to hold my anger, and my tongue, and not overreact and misdirect that anger. Not all the time, not
perfectly, but that's what makes us so annoyingly human.
I can honestly say I'm "on the mend," a nicer person, and easier to be around. Put it this way. Sometimes I know I'm being a prick, but now
it's my choice, rather than some unnamed, mindless impulse. What can I say. Sometimes people need a big hug, sometimes they need to be
Hope that makes a little sense, and helps. If not, hey! Go to hell! (nyuk nyuk)