Originally posted by lonewolf10
ive always had an anger problem but its getting worse.
imho, it is ESSENTIAL that you get on top of this problem--for your own health and wellfare as well as that of those around you and those on the road
near you. Anger turns out to be a major cause of road accidents etc.
One of the best resources is:
i'm angry about things i dont have, work that i dont have, experiences that i haven't had, things that i regret, i'm even angry at people that are
happy and think of them as stupid for being so happy.
You might begin by asking yourself quite seriously what your anger has ever gotten you
1. More corrosive cortisol in your blood stream shortening your life?
2. More frayed relationships?
3. More loss of sleep?
4. More indigestion?
5. More avoidance from those you want to be closer to?
6. More bewilderment about useful solutions?
7. More grief and guilt over blown incidents in relationships
8. More depression.
Anger has been called depression turned inwards. If you need therapy for depression--get it from someone skilled in COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY . . .
and the recent refinements tailored to depression.
no one wants to be around me, and when they are, they are uncomfortable.
This can get much worse than the dreadful state it already is in. Imagine talking to store clerks when windowshopping just for some human contact.
i'm angry about how people have wronged me and i cant seem to let it go.
Your anger doesn't hurt the folks you refuse to forgive. It only hurts you.
Your unforgiveness is destroying your life, your relationships and your physical health. Not worth it, is it?
Forgiveness does NOT mean the other person was not guilty.
Forgiveness does NOT mean the other person will never have to deal with their stuff. We all reap what we sow.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you have to think the other person is wonderful to be around.
Forgiveness means resigning as detective, prosecuting atny, judge, jury and executioner.
Forgiveness means releasing the other person to fate, to God, to their own reaping what they've sown eventually.
Forgiveness means releasing yourself from being chained to an incident they may no longer even remember.
Forgiveness means releasing yourself from being chained to a puss pocket of stink and pain the size of a giant sinkhole.
Forgiveness means letting go of the past and getting on with your life.
Unforgiveness . . . also . . . promises to keep one out of Heaven . . . we have to forgive to be forgiven.
"Father forgive us our sins AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE SINNED AGAINST US."
Books I believe have merit on forgiveness:
This one is by one of my all time favorite authors and Jason V:
THE SUPERNATURAL POWER OF FORGIVENESS: Discover How to Escape Your Prison of Pain and Unlock a Life of Freedom. Kindle version available
FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE: Step by Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope
FORGIVENESS: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Get on With Your LIfe
i know that we are supposed to focus on the present moment and be greatful for what we have, not what we dont have, but his eludes me.my mind is
always running full throttle.
i guess i need to get into meditation or give myself an ice pick lobotomy.
if ya'll can recommend any sites or advise that can help, i would sure appreciate it.
You will likely have to begin to discipline your thinking. And your emotions.
Emotions/feelings are merely information. They can be important information running from a bear. Or destructive information with anger and
You could begin by ABSOLUTELY REFUSING to think of any of the anger related stuff except for 5 min an hour or 5 min every 30 min . . . then 5 min
every 3-4 hours . . . then 5 min every 6-8 hours etc. But you MUST DECIDE that you WANT TO LIVE and live fulfilled and more or less happily vs
destroying yourself. You can get better. It takes work.
I think you might do well to get some therapy for your highly likely significant degree of
ATTACHMENT DISORDER. The best book on that is:
ATTACHMENTS: WHY YOU LOVE, FEEL AND ACT THE WAY YOU DO.
I think it's now available on Kindle, too.