posted on Sep, 24 2012 @ 06:55 PM
getting upset with a stranger who admits to manipulating you is essentially, to me, neglecting one's own responsibility to be in control of their own
perceptions, responses, and reactions to the words of others. i don't agree with those posters that became enraged with you (i remember reading only
a handful of pages of replies to your post, i probably missed the most vitriolic of responses), it's just another example of individuals blaming
others for their reaction to them.
at the same time, i guess in some ways i understand the anger... to an extent. my boyfriend is an ex-addict, so i have personal experience with an
extremely adept and well-practiced manipulator - someone, in fact, who knew me so well he was able to tailor-make manipulative behaviors that would
work on me. however, in reflecting upon it after the fact, i realize that any blame i could cast on him is so besides-the-point and unhelpful it
serves me no good to focus on it. because ultimately, i (through ignorance, or blind trust, or whatever) allowed myself to be manipulated by
him, which is something i would not realize if i never had that revelatory moment when i realized what was going on.
obviously, as he is a loved one, the broken trust does allow for some understandable feelings of anger... so it's a little different than with a
complete internet stranger. perhaps trust is understandable if someone's built up a positive forum reputation, but also sort of ironic on a website
in which the existence of "shills" and "paid disinfo agents" is not only likely but a well-known possibility (and we, as members, have a
responsibility to be aware of this, do we not?). i just don't see how anyone can get away from the fact that they have a RESPONSIBILITY to maintain
control of their perceptions... especially on a conspiracy theory-oriented website. it's sort of ironic, really. why do we expect that we can blindly
trust ANYONE here? and get mad if we feel that trust is broken? isn't that the source of much of the deception in the world at large, through
government, media, etc?
so anyway, being made aware that someone has manipulated you is a gift, in a way. because at the heart of any, maybe all, manipulation is an
unconscious process on the part of the person being manipulated. being easily manipulated is indeed a form of ignorance, but one that has the
potential for incredible insight once the deception is exposed. to allow anger to consume the potential insights and understanding one can gain from
realizing they've been psychologically hoodwinked is ridiculous, it negates individual responsibility for what we see and why we see it, and limits
our ability to protect against it again in the future.