posted on Sep, 18 2012 @ 10:07 PM
The girl tells the guy she loves him and wants to be his girlfriend. So he says:
"Okay, but these are the rules:
"#1: You are NOT the boss of me.
"#2. Do not try to manipulate me or control me. Do not make demands of me.
"#3 Allow me to be myself and let me express myself in my own way.
"If you can follow these rules, I'll follow the same ones for you and return the favor. What's fair is fair. If you can not follow any ONE of these
rules, then I want nothing to do with you, regardless of how I may feel."
Because, many women think that the guy has to obey their every whim and that they are the boss of the guy.
Here's an example of why these rules could be important.. I had a friend with a girlfriend who hated his jacket. She absolutely demanded that he get
rid of that jacket to please her. She raised a big ruckus and insulted and berated him all to hell and back until he finally relented and let her
choose the jacket she wanted him to wear.
Finally the day came where she wore a pornographic shirt. Well, very close to being a pornographic shirt anyway. He said it was inappropriate to wear
because it was just an offensive shirt. It had a muscle guy in a g-string in front of a Confederate flag showing off his muscle. He demanded that she
got rid of it, she refused and started insulting him and berating him all to hell and back. As in "how DARE you demand I get rid of this shirt. I
have every right in the world to wear this shirt you stupid sob..." yadda yadda yadda,,,
Eventually they broke up because she demanded that he be his boss and dominated and controlled every aspect of his life while she wouldn't give him
anything in return.
Unfortunately, there are far too many women like that in this day and age. It seems to me that many women can not be respectful towards men and are
quite irrational about it.
So that's where these rules come into play.
Because it seems to me that a healthy relationship borders on two-way respect, and a woman would respect the guy in this manner.
I'm not trying to say she should be a slave to him and his desires so please don't take it as such. It's just that to me a respectful person would
allow their significant other these things, and the partner would return the favor. Respect and trust is what builds a relationship, not domination,
control, and "do as I say not as I do" junk.
And there are a lot of women out there, as well as men, who don't seem to understand these things.
And personally, I just don't understand why some people have to be this way.
So, would it be wrong to have those rules?