R.I. school: Father-daughter dance violates law

Ok, this is ridiculous.

CRANSTON, R.I. - School officials in the Rhode Island city of Cranston have ended their traditional father-daughter dances and mother-son ballgames, saying the activities are a violation of state gender discrimination law.

And why may you ask? Who would make a big enough fuss about innocent family quality time?

School Superintendent Judith Lundsten told the Providence Journal the move came in response to a complaint from a single mother, after her daughter was not allowed to attend a father-daughter dance. The American Civil Liberties Union sent a letter to school officials on behalf of the mother.

I understand that some families are not actual full families and that mother or father are not present in to many circumstances, but come on. Isn't there more pressing issues the ACLU could be dealing with at this point in time? I don't know maybe the rights of all American citizens being trampled on?

How far does political correctness going to go. My Parents never did any extra curricular activities with me, should they have banned all that stuff because my parents sucked? no.

Sure many will find this not a big deal however it irritates me immensely. Sucks for the little girl but she should learn that not all things in life are fair and that there will be many more circumstances in life where she will be left out to. She is going to be awfully disappointed when mom gets into a new relationship and step dad is around but can't do the things she was missing out on because they caused a fuss.

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reply to post by DIRTYDONKEY


Well the answer is clear to anyone but and idiot! You simply don't exclude the Fatherless or those who's father's work out of town or can't come. I see it different then you because my Dad died when I was 7. So your friends are going to a dance and you can't go. Actually if it is YOUR school why should anyone be left out of ANY school activity? There is enough making people feel left out without the schools doing it too.

I guess they are afraid there would be no one to dance with but some other girls old dad and that could get bad if anything is misinterpreted.

Weird too so exclusive...no Mom and Son?

Really the whole thing does not work if you think of it. ONLY your DAD to dance with all evening? Weird really.

I think Bring Dad, every kid can come alone Dad or not, Dad dances a couple dances with daughter and goes home....most daughters and dads would be fine with that.

Sons' bring old Ma.

You know maybe its just me,

My father wouldn't be caught dead dancing with me at one of these functions.

Its sad in a way because, if provided the opportunity for my kids...my husband would definately be there....I don't like seeing kids lose out on a great chance to bond with their parent, grandparent, uncle....or whoever would fill that void.

If its a tradition, and the people enjoy it...more power to them, don't take it away.

Simply not excluding the ones who wanted to go anyway and may not have had a dad seems a reasonable solution. Shutting down the whole event is the Nanny-State way anymore. I don't have a daughter but I am a father and it's all too easy to get so caught up in life that my son's school happenings get missed. This at least made once a year a daughter could push their fathers to get up and involved......what's negative there?

It just shouldn't have been outright exclusionary. That's too extreme the other way...and how many would have chosen to go to a Father/Daughter event before being told they couldn't, anyway?

No common ground because there is no common sense.

That is so silly! There is no reason why the daughter of the single mom couldn't have attended with her grandfather, an uncle, an older brother, a close male family friend, etc.

My daughter is a single mom and my grandgirl has no interaction with her absentee father. When she gets old enough to attend something like that she will have no shortage of male family and friends to choose from to be her escort. This is a case of throwing the baby out with the bath water if you ask me.

Bad ACLU!!!

reply to post by DIRTYDONKEY


The answer is simple, have a single parent only dance and ban families with both parents.

My step daughter never went until i came in the picture, and i took her, she didn't really give me a choice. lol. But as mentioned earlier they could bring other family or close friend, If the school caused a fuss about that then sure aclu go get them. To disregard a tradition because of one students feelings is just inexcusable to me

reply to post by Char-Lee


My niece's dad died when she was 6 if her school had one of these functions i would gladly take her myself.

The mother and sons had a traditional baseball game that also was shut down.

Originally posted by nerbot
reply to post by DIRTYDONKEY

 

The answer is simple, have a single parent only dance and ban families with both parents.

A simpler answer: Change the name to Family Dance.

Feminazis must love this one.

They hate fathers and they hate this day. They think that all women everywhere don't need men in any way.

Note, I separate Feminazis from real feminists.

Originally posted by DIRTYDONKEY
reply to post by Char-Lee

 

My niece's dad died when she was 6 if her school had one of these functions i would gladly take her myself.

The mother and sons had a traditional baseball game that also was shut down.

How long would a teen girl have fun dancing with you? I am thinking 15 minuets.

This place must not be anything like here. The Mothers of Teens are generally pretty old and not wanting to be running around a field with teen boys. Teen boys here are embarrassed to be seen eating a pizza with Ma let alone playing a ball game.

Originally posted by jiggerj

Originally posted by nerbot
reply to post by DIRTYDONKEY

 

The answer is simple, have a single parent only dance and ban families with both parents.

A simpler answer: Change the name to Family Dance.

I like that, that seems appropriate and can include everyone.