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Originally posted by Lysergic
and the wolves circle...
There are always two sides to a coin/story. Do you think there are any chances of you and him getting back together? Perhaps after few months? (I have seen this one too many times among many of my friends). Have you truthfully evaluated yourself before evaluating his actions? Sometimes its the ego within us that hurts us more than anything else. If you are true to yourself and ATS about your BF then best thing to do would be cry it out if it helps, regroup the thought process and goals in life, go out and spend time with friends, family and focus on work for a while before attempting another relationship.
Originally posted by blackmetalmist
I just broke up with boyfriend today over a few things that I found disrespectful on his part. I had told him months ago to stop it but he continued doing it. I refuse to put up with things like that. Im feeling very down and depressed and need to cheer up.
Recommendations anyone ?
Originally posted by blackmetalmist
Originally posted by davethebear
Don't stay in the house and keep thinking about it. If you have made up your mind and you are happy with your decision, then go out and have a meal or a drink with some friends you maybe haven't seen for some time and have a catch up.............
Unfortunately im at work right now, so im trying my hardest to not cry but im on the verge at points. I probably just need to let it out and that should help. I hope. I had forgotten why I dont like being in relationships. Love doesnt exist. Im convinced more than ever.
Originally posted by Still Naive?
To be entirely honest, coming here and asking members for suggestions (or in the case of the ATS male, looking for comments about how sexy/hot/etc. etc. you are??) will only bring out the desperate, internet-porn dependent weirdos like the guy on the first page. There are better suited forums to vent and meet people in similar situations. A pain shared is a pain halved.
With that being said, beings you've already posted, I'll give you some real advice.
(if you want the website I mentioned, PM me and I'll give you the address...this website helped me get over what I wrote below as well)
Your best bet is to go out with your friends and enjoy yourself. I separated from my girlfriend of 7 years about 5-6 months ago. Talk about pain...both physically and emotionally. I chose not to go out with friends as often as I was invited and wallow in my sorrows beating myself up for things I could have done differently in the relationship. These self reflection moments are important but don't over-do it. I did choose to go out with friends a couple of times and those few nights gave me as much progress as sitting at home alone for a few months. I don't know how long you were with this person but going out and proving to yourself that the opposite sex WILL be interested in you is all you'll need to feel better i.e. FLIRTING (don't be stupid and be a whore for a few nights please...). I don't want to sound conceited but even when you know you're a good looking person, after being with someone for so long you tend to lose (or think you lost) that charm and personality to pick up women or in your case, men.
It's still there, just go out and prove it to yourself (again...without sleeping around). Some people live off of rebounds. Personally I think it's disgusting and shameful. Don't degrade your character or lower your standards.
Remember, time heals all wounds. What you do during that time will be associated with the break-up for the rest of your life.
And for the record, I knew this website had it's freaks but wow. This thread has brought them out of the woodwork like $!%^ing cockroaches. Where the hell is pest control??edit on 18-9-2012 by Still Naive? because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by EvilSadamClone
reply to post by blackmetalmist
What exactly did the guy do that was so disrespectful?
My wife and I often talk about it during heated moments/arguements and she has been making almost same remarks as you while we were dating (about 8 years) Now we have 2 beautiful children and she still uses this line when we have arguements I've been married 6 years and known her for 15 years.
Originally posted by blackmetalmist
Originally posted by EvilSadamClone
we are simply not at the same place we were when we first started. Thanks.
Originally posted by shansen
Have some physical activity, get tired, get sweating, let the brain to release a lot of endorphins, they are very helpful for a troubled mind.
Run in the park. Release all your fury, disappointment and frustration. Run as it's the only thing you can do.
Or go biking, for as long as you can, until you feel your lungs in fire and sweat is flowing on you like rain.
Then take a shower, hot/cold, get a beer and go to sleep. Don't think about anything, let your brain to cool itself.
We have marvelous self-defense mechanisms but it order to have them working, we must let our brain to take care of everything.
Even if now everything looks grey and bad, in a couple of months you'll laugh about it.
Despite of every advice here, it's you who have to cope with the whole situation, so pull yourself together.
Have a star, it'll maybe helpful.
S.