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Originally posted by denver22
If there was anyone to win your heart on ATS
Originally posted by blackmetalmist
I just broke up with boyfriend today over a few things that I found disrespectful on his part. I had told him months ago to stop it but he continued doing it. I refuse to put up with things like that. Im feeling very down and depressed and need to cheer up.
Recommendations anyone ?
And given a chance to cheer you up Who would be given that chance?
Anyone you admire?
Originally posted by faryjay
I got over my ex by hating the things she did whenever I missed her.
With time it got easier and better.
As for cheering up ... Go buy some KFC ... It's finger licking smile ticking good
Originally posted by littled16
Get in touch with a few old friends that you haven't had time for (due to the disrespectful EX) and start planning an all girl's weekend. Get several bottles of good wine, bust out with the hair and nail makeover products, drag out some old favorite CDs, get out the crazy "going to da club" makeup. Then get drunk, give each other makeovers, dress up crazy and go out somewhere and giggle and dance your butts off!
Originally posted by dollukka
reply to post by blackmetalmist
You are Great, remember that. There is no reason whatsoever to stay in relationship which has disrespectful behavior. You have just saved yourself ! Disrespectful behavior is on sign of abusive in relationship and if you allow that to happen its get only worse.
Don´t stay at home by yourself seek people who love you around you.
Originally posted by FissionSurplus
Breaking up is never easy. We women tend to feel worse over it, whether we are the breaker or the breakee.
Give yourself some time to grieve over it. That is very necessary. Take some time when you get off work, cry it out, gather your friends around you and cry some more. But stay strong, don't allow emotions to make you try and get back together with him because it will ease the pain. Don't ever go backwards in life, always go forward.
As the days go by, you'll cry less and less...and then, one day, you won't cry at all, and you'll start looking at things with fresh eyes and a more positive spirit.
There is no need to hook up with a new man right away. Men tend to want to get with another girl physically ASAP to make themselves feel better. Women usually need to work through the emotionality of the break-up before going out and trying somebody new.
If you find yourself thinking about him too much, realize that it is a mental habit that must be broken. A good way to do that is to wear a rubber band around your wrist, and each time you find yourself thinking of him, snap that rubber band hard against your wrist, and then immediately thing of something positive that has nothing to do with him (such as being on a tropical island, or shopping with your friends, whatever makes you happy).
Best of luck to you!
reply to post by blackmetalmist
The worse part of this all is that he doesnt even acknowledge my breaking up with him. I told him and he hasnt replied back at all. Nothing.