With depressive people.. Why is everything my fault?

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Sounds like you are blaming the world around you for the choices YOU made.

Originally posted by nerbot
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Sounds like you are blaming the world around you for the choices YOU made.

Yeah and people who really aren't happy with their position in life DO something to change it.

If they don't do anything to change it, it's because they're getting something out of it whether they want to admit it or not.

Originally posted by Manhater
Totally,
It's annoying. And redundant.
And when you try to set them straight, they play this guilt trip on you.
I get told to leave her alone, because her life is rough.
Yeah, okay.
So rough, she does nothing all day.
Bout to get sick from the excuses.
So what I do, "then your life is rough".
If it wasn't for him, she wouldn't be this way, or if he didn't do that,
"I don't understand why my kid wont follow. "
No, I really can't fathom it.
I have been trying.
AKA,
Take a damn shower.
Her:
"But he takes a shower, 3 times a day."
Yeah okay.. hardly..
"But you know everything"
Gee, can't see why your kid never took one.
According to her.
"but your never home to see me do it".
This kid hated taking a shower. That's why my floor is so messed up.
Because she never seen her damn parents ever take one.
I don't have to do it because, blah blah excuse.
Then she wonders why I am on her case.
This child does better on a structure environment, but the mom is pissed when I tell her to get some damn structure if she wants her back.
Yada, yada, don't start on me.
Like WTF...
It started with the home, it deals with home, and it ends with the home environment.
ugh..
But, it's your fault.

I don't understand, because I don't have kids.
Your right.
I will never have a kid.
Because they are terrorists or aliens to me.
They are a pain in my side.
Ah, I feel better..
Come Halloween, they will be spoiled.
Only the ones that don't live with me.

edit on 9-9-2012 by Manhater because: (no reason given)

Consider the psychology that attributes blameworthiness...outside of itself (germinal thought - given many subjects on ATS!)...

The abnegation of 'control'...has only one end-point...that is...that one is being controlled, and consequently anything which happens, is anothers' fault...and not under ones' control or direction.

This is what happens in a depressive way of thinking (by degrees)...to the point where, no action (which is why depressives tend to 'act' very little to ameliorate thier position)...brings about a feeling that they are being controlled, because they are indeed not 'acting' to change it - but others are...and the feeling becomes self-fulfilling and therefore true...

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Originally posted by Hawking

Originally posted by nerbot
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Sounds like you are blaming the world around you for the choices YOU made.

Yeah and people who really aren't happy with their position in life DO something to change it.

If they don't do anything to change it, it's because they're getting something out of it whether they want to admit it or not.

I agree.

Also, those with little or no self control will try and control the world around them which just perpetuates the selfishness and weakness.

I'm done venting. I got out of my system.

Paying a bus ticket for her to go see her daughter for her kids birthday. That at will least give me a little rest and break. Most likely will do it for x-mas too.

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lol

maybe you should watch some terrance mckenna videos
and use your imagination next time its your turn to cook dinner

I thought your sister moved out?
Perhaps you should start leaving her a little list of things to do while you're gone, if she's going to be at home all day, it's the least she could do.
Vacuum and perhaps do some laundry, or dust would be a start.
I think you should go a little easy on her, it doesn't sound like she's having too good a time at the moment. Be adults about it, sit down and talk with her, tell her she needs to get her # # together, either go get some counselling or pull herself together.
Having done both in my low times, I know either options are viable and work well There's no excuse other than pure laziness, and if she can't pull her finger out and do something around the house, then send her off to your brother with a big smile.

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The thought has crossed my mind.

She always gave me this excuse, "I can't mop the floors on my hands and knees. I have back problems.", Newsflash, I have the same back problem, and I do it.

So, I bought this steam vac to mop the floors., she has used it only one time.

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Say whaaat? Mopping requires little to no effort at all, especially when you have adjustable height mops, mops that can scrub and polish at the same time etc, she shouldn't have to get on her hands and knees.