With depressive people.. Why is everything my fault?

Totally,

It's annoying. And redundant.

And when you try to set them straight, they play this guilt trip on you.

I get told to leave her alone, because her life is rough.

Yeah, okay.

So rough, she does nothing all day.

Bout to get sick from the excuses.

So what I do, "then your life is rough".

If it wasn't for him, she wouldn't be this way, or if he didn't do that,

"I don't understand why my kid wont follow. "

No, I really can't fathom it.

I have been trying.

AKA,

Take a damn shower.

Her:

"But he takes a shower, 3 times a day."

Yeah okay.. hardly..

"But you know everything"

Gee, can't see why your kid never took one.

According to her.

"but your never home to see me do it".

This kid hated taking a shower. That's why my floor is so messed up.

Because she never seen her damn parents ever take one.

I don't have to do it because, blah blah excuse.

Then she wonders why I am on her case.

This child does better on a structure environment, but the mom is pissed when I tell her to get some damn structure if she wants her back.

Yada, yada, don't start on me.

Like WTF...

It started with the home, it deals with home, and it ends with the home environment.

ugh..

But, it's your fault.



I don't understand, because I don't have kids.

Your right.

I will never have a kid.

Because they are terrorists or aliens to me.

They are a pain in my side.

Ah, I feel better..

Come Halloween, they will be spoiled.

Only the ones that don't live with me.

Manhater you are a drama queen. If it is not your sister it is your sisters kid, or maybe it is your sisters kid and your sister about a computer or your sisters kid about a computer...

# I give up

Go get a hobby that does not involve your family.....

Why do you still live with them?

You've been posting on ATS about not getting along with your family for a very long time. Ever think it's time to move out?

And yes, there IS an option you can afford - make it happen. Move on with your life

Believe it or not, this is my only freaking day off from everything.

School
&
work
&
3 hours sleep
everyday.


Not my families problems by choice and other BS.

I actually get to converse.

Originally posted by Hawking
Why do you still live with them?

You've been posting on ATS about not getting along with your family for a very long time. Ever think it's time to move out?

And yes, there IS an option you can afford - make it happen. Move on with your life

I, own the house, that's why.

Originally posted by Manhater
Believe it or not, this is my only freaking day off from everything.

School
&
work
&
3 hours sleep
everyday.


Not my families problems by choice and other BS.

I actually get to converse.

No offence but all I seeing is a bunch of excuses...

TAKE ACTION

Originally posted by Manhater

Originally posted by Hawking
Why do you still live with them?

You've been posting on ATS about not getting along with your family for a very long time. Ever think it's time to move out?

And yes, there IS an option you can afford - make it happen. Move on with your life

I, own the house, that's why.

edit on 9-9-2012 by Manhater because: (no reason given)

So you own the house and the people in it seem to be ruining your life...

I think you can see where I'm going with this

Originally posted by Manhater

Originally posted by Hawking
Why do you still live with them?

You've been posting on ATS about not getting along with your family for a very long time. Ever think it's time to move out?

And yes, there IS an option you can afford - make it happen. Move on with your life

I, own the house, that's why.

edit on 9-9-2012 by Manhater because: (no reason given)

Well that is a better reason to take action...Kick you sorry sister and her kid to the curb.

Sorry of I seen rash but, this is not the first post from "manhater" I have seen. Although my account says it began in 2012.....some people know how to get around account bans.....

Originally posted by Manhater

Originally posted by Hawking
Why do you still live with them?

You've been posting on ATS about not getting along with your family for a very long time. Ever think it's time to move out?

And yes, there IS an option you can afford - make it happen. Move on with your life

I, own the house, that's why.

edit on 9-9-2012 by Manhater because: (no reason given)

Manhater you need to contact Des.

Des is a wise women that may be able to help you with this "toxic" relationship/

reply to post by RobertF


Yeah, she's going to live my bro (the cult leader) , supposedly. He's worse then I am. She considers herself a tenant, which I agree with, to some point. But he's worse than I am. Her child needs a structured environment, if she want her kid back.

That was after I dropped her kid off to her Dad's that the child wanted so much.

But she hasn't done anything after the fact.

She has attended the parent conferences only.

What has she done to get child back?

Nothing.

It's everyone's fault.

Why she isn't here?

And to me, she is not welcomed here, nor is she welcomed here.

So, find own place.

She, hasn't.

But, it's my fault, that I don't understand.

I am not up to speed on all your family stuff, nor do I want to be.

But I have two brothers who are wastes of human life. I call them oxygen thieves.
It was easy for me because I am how I am, but I can understand how it might not be so easy for other people.

Write them off as a loss and kick them out. You may not want to hear it, but I am going to let you in on a little secret.
No one loves you as much as you.

reply to post by watchitburn




I do want want to do that.

But then, I got the boss from the mafia telling me not too.



Ah, and thank you for the love.

Originally posted by Manhater
reply to post by watchitburn

 

I do want want to do that.

But then, I got the boss from the mafia telling me not too.

Ah, and thank you for the love.

edit on 9-9-2012 by Manhater because: (no reason given)

Do not mistake our concern for "love". also do not mistake their success as love.

Do not continue to be used

reply to post by Manhater


i can relate to that my home upbring was completely disfunctional. The only solution is to move away from it. That is live in a different house. If you cant afford a house, then tent.

It's annoying, that's all.

To hear her excuses everyday freaking day.

That I have to deal with everyday.

Ugh, I just want to smack her.

Famous quote by her

" have a good a day"

Yeah, because you ain't freaking doing anything....

That, annoys me.

Wrong button.

Originally posted by AthlonSavage
reply to post by Manhater

 

i can relate to that my home upbring was completely disfunctional. The only solution is to move away from it. That is live in a different house. If you cant afford a house, then tent.

I did. I bought my own house. I moved away for years, then called back after my divorce. Big mistake. Because now I seem to be taking on the family.

Manhater, it sounds to me like your sister is severely depressed and getting angry or trying to rationalize with her isn't going to help if that is the case. Sounds to me like she needs help for depression first before you guys start working on other issues. She needs mental and emotional support. She should have been seeing a therapist already as a single parent of a mentally disabled child with everything else that's going on. as that can be very mentally taxing.

I know some people complain about these posts, but I get the need to vent and this is the rant forum. Don't open it up if you don't want to read it.
Just because she isn't doing what you think she should be doing doesn't mean she is or is not doing the right thing. There is probably more to this story than she wants to share so we can't judge with out knowing all the facts.

reply to post by calstorm


At first she was seeing a therapist, but after her car broke, she stopped. I paid to fix her car, and now she has every excuse why not to see to see the therapist. I have suggested a mental wellness therapist, but she won't go yet.

Vent my friend vent. Although everyone is probably too concerned with their own environment to appreciate yours, that doesn't mean your cries are falling on deaf ears.

What I gather from this post is that you're kindness and love for your family is being taken advantage of. You're at your wits end yet you persist and offer a refuge to the ones you love. For that you are at no fault; for that I hold you in high regard.