posted on Sep, 3 2012 @ 02:19 AM
I personally think the subject of being easily offended is a vaste one that cannot be summed up with one explanation. The reasons are not the same
AS I mentioned in another thread though, I am an American ex-Pat and discovered that our culture is especially known for turning out excessively
offended people (being "susceptible", as the french say). I found that I was too.
But that changed with time in another culture, so I can't help analyzing myself to see what is at the heart of those changes.
For one, we tend to avoid confrontation and conflict in general- "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all" is still taught to our
children, instilling them with the idea that it is wrong to have and share a critical opinion.
The belief that it is wrong or bad sets us up for having a strong negative reaction when someone does it, or even if we do it ourselves!
Plus we have been swimming in an education of positive affirmation, which, without being balanced by the negative enforcement, creates an even bigger
sensitivity to criticism and opposition. We may be aware on some deeper levels of the more negative light that could be shown upon ourself, but have
become habituated to that being a taboo. Be nice, be positive, at all times... talk and act like everything is beeautifooool, and AWESOME! all the
time, and it might become true!
Also, in France, debate is probably the biggest national sport, played out daily by everyone. It is a way of bonding with each other, it is considered
an important mind exercise. People will get into animated and loud debates at the dinner table, and two minutes later laughing, putting arms around
each other, and pouring each other another glass of wine. I found this confusing at first.
No one even convinced the other, no one "won", they didn't even have to say "agree to disagree"- that was assumed from the beginning- that no
agreement was expected. In fact, often people choose to defend a point of view which they do not personally hold, just in order to play opponent to
another. It is a fun sport.
This is what made me very aware that often, we get upset, and we search to form teams to support us, simply because we
do not know how to debate.
We get frustrated, we cannot come up with good arguments, and we get emotional and search for supporters to help us counter with collective force
instead of individual logic.
It is often simply a lack of practice that means we have not developed good skills in argumentation and critical thought.