I would hope that, in the future, if my kid wanted to join the military, I would be strong enough to let them make their own choices. For me, when it
comes down to it, everyone needs to make their own decisions, learn from their own path, make their own mistakes, earn their own triumphs, even my own
children. For me to tell them that they can't do something just doesn't agree with what I believe. I would make sure that they were well aware of
the reality of what they wanted to get into, but in the end, if that's what they want, that is what they want.
Everything has its place in this world, and if they're sure that they want to make that choice, then they own that decision. To say that someone has
failed in their duty as a parent outright because their child wants to join the military is just a crass thing to accuse someone of.
Originally posted by TDawgRex
reply to post by thesmokingman
Having been there and done that I would have a sit down and talk with them. Find out why they want to enlist.
Everyone experiances life differently. The military saved me from myself, but I watched people who were not able to adapt as well and they didn't
fair to well.
Anytime a young man or woman tells me that they are thinking about enlisted I ask them, Why?
Almost always the answer is that they cannot find a job or cannot afford college.
At which point I tell them that the military lifestyle is what they make of it and that they should try to get a MOS that gives them a skill after
If they're after adventure *shudders*, then I suggest that they get in shape and join the USAF PJ's or the Navy's or Coast Guards Para-Rescue.
Plenty of excitement there and they will saving lives more often than taking them.
And after the enlistment, there is a chance that they can become a EMT/Nurse on a Life-Flight in their local area. Those folks make good money.
And they'll continue to save others lives.
edit on 31-8-2012 by TDawgRex because: One last thought
I think that's great. My brother was considering joining the military after highschool, I asked him why and I think he had a similar answer. He
wanted to do an apprenticeship through the forces as a diesel fitter, which could eventually land him anywhere, including the Middle East. I was
worried for him, naturally, although he didn't end up qualifying due to some academic insufficiency.
If this is the choice they want to make, I'd ask questions and guide them the best that I could, but I'm not going to tell them that they can't do
something. I would probably have the same reservations if my kid said they wanted to become an accountant or lawyer. To me, I couldn't think of
anything worse or more soul-sucking or boring than having that as a job for the rest of my life. But if that's what they want to do, if that's what
they love, then that's their choice, not mine to make.