posted on Aug, 27 2012 @ 06:31 PM
I respect that everyone has an opinion, however, unless you have personally raised a child with certain conditions, your comments on this subject are
highly uneducated and frustrating to see how many people may assume the child's behavior is due to negligent parenting. Let me inform those who are
on the outside looking in.
My son was three, almost four when he began behavioral therapy for high aggressive behavior and hyper activity. This was not enough to convice me
that he needed to be medicated so we continued therapy for around a year. I tried many different approaches to discipline: possitive reinforcement,
rewarding for good behavior, time out or taking toys away for misbehavior, calm talking, intimidation, and as much as I know it is frowned upon by
proffesionals, yes I spanked. No matter what I did, nothing was working. Then one day I had a meeting with the director of the preschool he was
going to and I was told he had stabbed a little girl in the arm with a pencil, and slapped a teacher's glasses to the ground, stompped them then
picked up pebbles from the play ground and threw them in that teacher's face. On occasion, he woud hide under tables or desks and say he wouldn't
come out until the "man in black" in the corner went away, someone who wasn't there. (I will comment more about his visuals later).Nothing
triggered this behavior. Two parents were already threatening to sue the school and/or myself for the amount of pain he had already been cauing to
other kids. As a parent, I'd completely understand the urge to protect your child and I know they must have been infuriated. As the mother of the
child who was causing all this pain to other childen and their parents, I felt I had run out of options and exhausted every resource I had available
to me (even our church) without turning to medications.
It was the summer before he was to start public school and I knew that this had to be handled differently from then on out. I certainly didn't want
my son to miss out on educational opportunities because he would be under school suspension or in the principal's office most of every day. On the
other hand, as a spiritual person, I was still battling with the idea of medication and found myself doing Google searches on schizophrenia verses
being spiritually sensitive. How would I know the difference. What if he has some sort of gift of seeing beings that most of us can not? Would
medicating him block his "gift" or was he really meantally ill or seeking attention? I couldn't decide. What I did know, was that no matter what
gift he may have, there was no doubt, he had issues with aggressive behavior and even started to hurt animals.
One of the diagnosises was/is O.D.D. Many proffesionals will say there is no medication that can be prescribed for O.D.D. and will recommend
continuous therapy and counsiling to help self manage. He was also diagosed with unclasified mood disorder, and ADHD. We have had our ups and downs
with medications and I have even attempted to ween him off to see if he would have a better handle on his behavior as he got older, with hopes he'd
"grow out of" the old behaior patterns. No such luck. He wound up in the principal's office, started seeing people who weren't there, and
needless to say became highly aggressive and defiant. The only obvious difference was that he was getting taller and stronger.
There is still a long road ahead. This is not only a strain on the child who craves to be like the children in his school who he deems "normal",
this process is a major strain on the parent and can even jepordize his/her job/career. The parent sacrifices much more than the parent of a child
without behavioral disorders.He is 9 years old now and he is in my care at least for the next 9 years to come and I will do whatever it takes to help
him become a model citizen and let him know his worth in this world is just as important and anyone elses. I'll be damned if I will allow people to
call me a lazy parent because my son is on medication. I will not appologize for going down the road that will help my son be more successful in
school and personal relationships. My only hope is he continues his therapy and/or medication in 9 years, cause I can tell you honestly, I'm afraid
to see those old behaviors acted out by a stronger, young man. A little bit of me really fears for his future and the harm he could cause to myself,
himself, or others.
I hope this has given you a little insight and helps you to be not so quick to judje the parent of a medicated child. Sometimes there are no other
options. So, I ask this: Would you say I was a more responsible parent if I let someone (who is eventually going to be an adult) walk around in your
neighborhood unmedicated, knowing he might eventually get a kick out of hurting you? Don't speak of something you know nothing about, plz!!