posted on Aug, 26 2012 @ 11:22 PM
reply to post by DCLXVI
I had to think about this for a minute before deciding if I wanted to tell you anything. My wife of over two decades left me for another man. The man
was a friend and he bombarded her with flattery. After she asked for the divorce, he dumped her. That affair negatively effected everyone in her
family, in my family and our friends. It devastated the children (grown adults). Of all the people who were harmed, she ended up being harmed the most
because her sister decided to be just like her and she had to watch as her sister destroyed her family. She tried to convince her not to cheat on her
husband and was told by her sister that she wanted to be just like her. I don;t know about Karma; but, consequences and effects. If that was all I had
to say, I would not have bothered posting.
While you may have been a selfish jerk for how you treated women, I don't blame the guy who my wife cheated on me with, she was the one that took an
oath. What he did was wrong; but, what she did was worse. I forgave the both of them years ago. You don't need to apologize to those men; but, you
might want to consider apologizing to those women. It could clean up a lot of guilt that you might feel.
My ex had a major problem last week and called me for help. I gave it to her, this is the second time I have had to do this, the first was in the
middle of the divorce while she was asking for everything she could get. Her attorney doesn't like her so she called me. One of my children has told
me that my ex wants to thank me in person, she also wants to apologize for what she did. I don't know that I want to hear it; if I do it will be for
her and not for me. It is not something I care to remember; but, what would the world be if there was no forgiveness.
I am sure it took quite a lot for you to put your "sin" out in public. Nobody on ATS had to know; but, you chose to publicly announce that you had
been a major jerk. That is sure taking responsibility for your actions and I will give you a flag and a star for that. After you are done dealing with
taking responsibility and taking whatever actions you feel are necessary to make up for your past, forgive yourself. If we accept what we have done,
try to do better and forgive yourself. The guy that slept with my wife, he hated women, he wanted to prove to himself that they were all liars and
Life is what is in front of you, choose your path and learn as you go. Learn from your past, we all screw up, the nature of the game. Accepting that
we have made mistakes is the best way to improve and we never become perfect. I wish you well on your journey, it took a lot of courage to put your OP