posted on Aug, 28 2012 @ 02:43 AM
Thanks for all the insight and replies, no matter what side of the fence you were on.
I'm relieved to say we had a long talk and things are tighter than before. He just didn't realize how deep into things he'd gotten and it was also
part my fault for not telling him just HOW things were affecting me. Communication is a vital thing after all, as is compromise. By me bottling my
feelings and letting them simmer until boiling, that was wrong on my behalf. I learned some people just don't realize a thing is wrong or excessive
or what-have-you unless something big happens as a result. Well, this was something big.
But the whole thing of compromising is a vital focus now:
He's taken to doing things with me he's not all /that/ into and I've taken to doing the same thing; and secretly, I think we'll end up being more
into the things we thought we weren't into BY doing this. Even if not, it's gold to know that the other is involved cuz you enjoy it. Does that make
sense? Hard to word it right. "I may not enjoy this a lot, but you do and I know it makes you happy so I'll be here with you for it and maybe join
in." That kinda thing.
So yes. I think (and note please that i said /I THINK/, meaning it's not fact. Just my thoughts) that some guys tend to not see the forest for the
trees where some gals tend to see the trees for the forest and read 20358290358209358209 things into one or two things - and not one of those
20395829035820938 things are correct. Or, as in my case with this whole mess, we don't want to say what's really on our minds for fear of rejection
or being snipped at or proven wrong, etc. Any of those if not more. So yes, communication is vital no matter if you're face to face friends, long
distance friends, or even those who are dating, married, etc. You gotta talk out problems and stuff else the other person can't know what's truly
He LOVES the heck outta that game. If it makes him happy, who am I to complain about it?
Whatever makes him smile makes me smile.
Though of course, I still wish he'd cut down just like 10%. In time. I don't want to nag him of course. That would be NOT good. We do grow out of
things though, most of the time. Move on to something else. Least he aint doing drugs or drinking or something like that.