I'm headed to bed and I'm tired, so forgive me all if I sound downright cranky. I really am.
Over my time here I've seen many people offer themselves up to the tender mercies of the membership in asking for help on this problem, or that one.
Some, intensely personal and serious. Some, outright dangerous. Some others, downright silly..and stupid. However, the person ASKING is sincere and
genuinely seeking help.
Why is it then, that those threads asking for help in an emotionally vulnerable way always attract two kinds of people? Without fail. they do! There
are a couple forums here that all but dedicate their topics to such matters so it's easy to find some threads to look at for examples. You have:
1. ~ Members who respond with a sincere and honest desire to help. Whether the skills match the situation and the help is accepted or politely
declined is secondary to the fact there are always at least a few to offer assistance. (Well..ALMOST always. Some threads tried and died, no doubt)
2 ~ Members who seemingly feel better when others feel worse. Those threads bring this type as predictably as the first. These folks attack, harass,
ridicule or just badger with inane questions, outlandish suggestions or flat off topic horse manure. Sometimes a little pinch of all of the above to
make a real brew of 'Lets make a bad situation worse!'.
It's this second class of folk I simply don't understand. Perhaps someone else can help enlighten?
I can see the new people (and there are always new people...I was one once..we all were) that do this. New folks who start out this way usually
aren't going to be here long, so that's easy enough to tolerate.
However, it's just as often folks who have been here a long time and will, presumably, be here much longer. After trashing someone on a help thread,
do these people honestly believe it's looked upon as amusing or cute by any OTHER members who see it? How do those people think they'll be treated
in their own threads and posts going forward and until the display is forgotten (If ever)?
It just seems to me, and maybe I'm too touchy at times, that when those who have the courage or need or both, to lay out whatever is at the heart of
their major issue at the time.....people who have nothing but divisive and mean spirited things to say can move on. No?
ATS had a total of 1,232 new threads created in the last 7 days, as the stats I checked before posting this show. Would it kill people who have
nothing nice to say to simply skip those few help threads which come up and go haunt the other 1,225 or whatever the number?
(Hops off soapbox) Thats all..I had my say. It isn't about any particular thread right now or even a specific one recently. It's about the pattern
that continues and had an example quite recently to remind me just how annoying it is to see others torn down so a few can feel smug with themselves
that a situation really COULD be made just a little bit worse than it needed to be otherwise.