posted on Aug, 24 2012 @ 06:44 AM
reply to post by buddybaney
Sounds like you're a family man who has a family that doesn't make you feel secure.
It also doesn't sound like you or your wife wouldn't miss each other very much if you left. You both would only miss the stability that comes when
two people share their lives. But if that's all you have, leave. That's not a relationship. That is, like you said, a partnership.
If you feel in your gut that you can do better with the other woman, then do it. She sounds like a good woman if she doesn't want this to happen
while you're still married. She sounds like what you need.
Sounds to me like you know what what you need, it's just the transition that's hard for you. I can relate. I'm not the dating type either. Never
have been. I've always gotten what I wanted without having to go through all that. Being faced with what you need can be hard to get though without
communication. Since you two do communicate, just make sure that what you say helps build trust and faith in each other. That's a very important
building block when you're building a relationship. I'll admit, that's something I need to work on myself. And I am.
Your shortcomings in the past? Be honest with her about them and expect the same from her. Also start talking to her about what you both want out of
the lives you build for each other. Since you're both not the dating type, it should be natural to just cut to the chase and get right to the
important issues. Also be honest with her when you tell her you want to be a better man and you feel that she can be a big part in helping you do
It's one thing to tell a woman that she's needed, but it's another to show her that it's the truth. The same thing goes with the woman. You may
have your shortcomings, but so does she. We all need work.