posted on Aug, 22 2012 @ 11:20 AM
Dear ATS member-
According to my notes from Sociology class...
Why guys are not as manly as they should be. At the age of 5 boys are not ready for school because their brains are not wired for the basics of
reading and writing as compared to girls (Leanord Sax "Boys Adrift"). As a defense mechanism they stop trying and are labeled as "slow". Most
are diagnosed with ADHD and are given drugs which help with their not feeling motivated.
Plastic bottles, chemical phalates and other plastic run'off from landfills caused fish to have no genetalia and the chemicals in the plastic are
linked to smaller penis size and the labia-shaped construction of the testes in humans.This would lower testosterone and sex drive in males in their
20s. Hair spray and nail polish also have these chemicals which the child would have been exposed to from the mother.
Video games - When boys play video games they receive instant gratification plus "rewards" in the guise of more powers or a more challenging level
for the main character as opposed to doing homework where the rewards are not instantly forthcoming.
Lack of male role models - due to losing father figures and no one to show masculine behavior which is disappointing because all cultures value hard
All of the above were points made by Sax in his book. Ultimately because of the males not pursuing their education there are less enrolled in college
(60% women to 40% men) and the women are driven to finding the few "good ones" out there which leads to promiscuity.....which is a whole other
The long and short of it perhaps is ....Maybe people of my generation (graduated H.S. 1986) by the consumption of GMOs, using plastic bottles (soda
pop, water), divorce (where the mother is raising the child/ren alone) or single-parent homes.... we have inadvertently contributed to the lack of
motivation and/or reversal of roles for our kids. In my daughters graduating class of 100, one boy was professed to be gay, 6 were "normal" and the
rest of the boys were "metro-sexual" (tanned, groomed in regards to clothing, hair, waxing, mani and pedicures). Even in college more than half the
males she met on campus or in class were gay.
It seems that the women of our society are taking on the male role of educated, head of household, breadwinner etc., while the male is more passive
and more apt to be less motivated. Granted, there are exceptions to the rules, but in this little slice of western NY.....well
As far as women are concerned - during the feminism movement of the 70s females starting acting like men in the terms of sex and love. Females were
encouraged to further their education rather than settle down into marriage which takes away from the "courtship rituals". Birth control came on the
market which severed the relationship between reproduction and sex.
"Understanding Hook-up Culture" by Paula England - Dates (which are supposed to mean more) come after the hook-ups but have lost their intention
because the act of sex came first. Females who play the system by being promiscuous (like men are expected to do) are labeled as a "slut" and are
viewed harshly by society as a woman not "good enough" to marry per se, but "good enough" to sleep with.
Kathleen Bogle "Hooking Up" - As compared to making the choice to be with one man for the rest of your life, birth control makes it possible to
find Mr. Right for only tonight with no repercussions. Hooking up on college campuses started with men and women being in close proximity. Because of
the slim-pickins on campus as far as male/female ratio, the act of sex doesn't equal love for the men due to widespread availability of porn and so
many females to one male, whereas for the female she is hoping for the follow-up phone call from the guy. No modesty is left for todays young women
in terms of how they dress, act and present themselves. Society does not expect her to say "no" (look at popular ads) and if she does, then abuse
and hostility usually follow.
Just a few ingredients to add to the soup....