posted on Aug, 21 2012 @ 12:55 PM
reply to post by isitjustme
Honey, I wish I could be more help. I've been through this in April with my German Shepherd, almost exactly what you've described, and it's just so
painful...it still is, and I can't say that you will ever really get over it. But...you will learn to deal with it eventually, and cope with
it....that's all I've learned to expect anyway. The pain never goes away. I don't have kids, but people who have say it truly is like losing one of
your children when you lose a pet. Our bond with them is so close, and rightly so.
The only thing that I hope will comfort you a little bit is to remember that we all have our time to go, and this was his. Everything that could be
done was done, and he is clearly very loved. We drive ourselves mad thinking that they will blame us and hate us for letting them go, but they don't.
A friend of mine pointed out to me when Murphy died that they have no idea what's happening to them....we are the ones who are fully aware and
torturing ourselves with guilt. All they know is that it's their time and they are pain free.
Don't push yourself to clear up his things either. Leave them where they are if it helps you and don't apologise for it...Murphy's dish still sits
in my kitchen, and his toys are all over the garden. My new little boy who I've had just a few days will play with them when he's in the mood.
Please allow yourself to grieve without guilt or explanation to anyone. It's a hard and painful process, but you will start to heal soon. Takes a
while, I won't lie, but you'll recover a little and start to think only about the the dumb things he did to make you laugh.
On a practical level, if you're up for some woo woo stuff....there is a Bach Flower Remedy called Star of Bethlehem that is excellent for the grief
process. Track some down if you can, and it will help.
Otherwise, consider yourself hugged and loved my many people here I'm sure, and rant all you like....we're listening.