originally posted by: Frankenchrist
So aspergers is basically a disorder that prevents you from socializing?
I'm kinda not buying this disorder.
originally posted by: r2d246
I GOT NEWS FOR YOU...
This might come as a shock to you...
But you've been lied to!!! The truth is your a perfectly fine adult in perfect health. You're just like everyone else. Everyone lives with fears,
insecurities, confusion and other issues that plague everyone on the planet. It's part of being human. You're NO DIFFERENT than anyone else.
So here's my advice to you. Stop believing there lie. Get off any pills there trying to get you hooked on. And tell them to go foock themselves.
They're a bunch of liars. They'll say anything to get you to believe them and then anything else to get you on some pills you don't need. Be careful
my friend. Again your fine, you've just been lied to that's all.
You have NO idea! You're obviously an NT. If you had AS, then you'd understand that it's a very real thing. I ask you, how, when I read other people's
stories about how their lives have gone, what symptoms/characteristics they have, how they experience the world and how it's affected them, it's as if
I'm reading something I could have written. After I was diagnosed, I read the description of it and it was as if the author knew me personally. I
hated my diagnosis at first. I didn't think or want to believe I was on the AUTISM spectrum but as soon as I started reading about it, it was like a
light switched on. It was one of those ah-ha moments you get in life. It was like, "That's me! That's my life summed up!"
The fact that you don't understand proves you're an NT. When I read the OP's message, I actually wondered if I had written it except the ages were
different and he used expressions I don't but that didn't stop me from checking the username to be sure.
This IS a very real thing but it's not all negative. I have the ability to hyperfocus on my Special Interest to the exclusion of EVERYTHING around me
for many hours. I once programmed for 12 hours straight without even stopping for food, water or toilet breaks. I was totally lost in what I was doing
- it was like Zen! I suddenly realised I was sitting in the dark and hadn't noticed! (I hadn't fed my cat either).
We're very honest, loyal, logical people and we see things from a different perspective than how NT's see them. We also have the ability to see
problems in a different way to how NT's see them and we're able to come up with solutions that NT's can't. It's not necessarily that we're smarter
than you. It's just that our brains are wired differently and sometimes we're able to come up with solutions that NT's just can't "see"! A lot of us
are high functioning and highly intelligent. Oh, we also take things very literally and don't have the ability to lie.
There are so many positives about being an Aspie but there are a lot of downsides as well.
If you're an Aspie who wants to socialize, then that can lead to a very sad life because we don't usually like small talk, don't understand body
language or get non-verbal cues and most, if not all social events are downright painful for us!!! After times where I've had to socialize like work
events, I need to be alone for a while to recharge. I find them very draining but the not being able to socialize isn't that bad for me because I have
ZERO desire to socialize anyway. My idea of a good night is being home alone with a few beers, some music and researching my Special Interest,
Acridotheres tristis. I love 'em
I could literally talk to you about them until your ears bled.
That's another awesome thing about being an Aspie - Special Interests. When we get a Special Interest, we tend to specialize in it to EXTREMES. When
we get a Special Interest, we learn just EVERYTHING there is to learn about it and then we build on it. We're also very creative and can use our
ability to 'lateral think' and see solutions, new discoveries that others can't see. As I said. It's not that you're not smart enough. It's just that
our brains are wired differently and we see things from a different perspective.
Our Special Interests are what soothes and restores us. They are the one place we can go to relax and restore. My partner could never understand how
my form of relaxing after work was to sit down and write C/C++ programs for 8 hours or more in the evening (until she found out I was an Aspie)!!!
We live in a different world to you - to the point where it's also been known as Wrong Planet Syndrome because many of us feel like... It's like being
an alien and you're stuck on this planet and you have to learn to function because you can't go home. That's just so accurate!
A lot of the stuff you take for granted, we have to learn and it takes a lot of mental energy to survive in a predominantly NT world.
Despite all the negatives and how bad it may sound, there are also a LOT of positives to being an Aspie and I've got to tell you, if someone came up
with a 'cure' for it tomorrow, I'd tell them where they could shove it!!!
I hope this has helped enlighten you to the fact that we're not trying to fool you. We're not capable of that. We don't play your games. We're
literal, honest and we don't mince words. We say it how it is. Sometimes, we're so honest to the point of being brutal but if your partner says, "Do
you think my ass looks big in this dress?" and I say "Yes!" and it offends you, then DON'T ASK!!! We can be honest to a fault.
Anyway, it's an old thread (originally - last comment was 2014) and I hope in that time, you've been enlightened to the AWESOMENESS of what it can
mean to be an Aspie.
edit on 20-11-2014 by ImAnAspie because: I accidentally left out salient points.